Well, I’d like to offer a brief description of what I understand “wounded child healing” to be.

[Note: I’m re-publishing this article as it is still relevant till today;-)]

What is Wounded Child Healing

The “wounded child” is an archetype which contains damaged or negative emotional patterns of our youth. It may help to improve your understanding if we can draw reference from the lyrics to the song “Childhood” by Michael Jackson…

Before you judge me, try hard to love me,
Look within your heart then ask,
Have you seen my Childhood?
People say I’m strange that way
‘Cause I love such elementary things,
It’s been my fate to compensate,
For the Childhood I’ve never known…

Loving The Wounded Child

Loving the wounded child is about healing ourselves through acknowledging the trauma and hurt that we suffered when we were young and then freeing ourselves from them. As adults, we unconsciously allowed these memories to dictate how we run our lives. Our coping mechanisms were meant to protect us at one stage but they may no longer serve us.

Here is something for you to think about…

The outer story of your adult life, thus far, reflects the inside story of your wounded child.

We hold dysfunctional self images through the stories of our childhood. How we perceive ourselves is pretty much driven by the childhood programming that we have had. Our childhood programming is largely influenced by our caregivers, who represented the world to us while we were young. We form relationships based on what we learn from our parents. Our parents in turn learn about theirs from their parents. So it is in us that we have layers and layers of beliefs, patterns and behavior passed down from generation to generation.

Yet, as much as not wishing to be like any of our parents, we may find ourselves having adopted the same patterns, behavior and attitudes. It often comes as no surprise to some of us on how we end up in similar patterns. We may not recognize it at first but the patterns are the same recurring themes.

Negative patterns essentially bear the same emotional pain energy even though they may take on different forms. Anorexia, obesity or alcoholism may be traced to negative self images perpetuated by our parents during our younger days. It is possible that our current feelings of rejection originate from childhood.

While there are the rare courageous few who rise above their traumas, the vast majority of us carry the wounds of our childhood around. The same patterns manifest in every aspect of our lives; at home, in the office; in the relationships we have with our spouses, kids, parents or friends; or even physically.

Wounded Child Healing: Releasing the Trauma

Indeed, the wounds of your inner child can create much havoc in the relationships you have with yourself and others. Through healing, you confront the archetypal force within your psyche. With confronting rather than stifling the voice, you release the emotional charge that your wounded child holds on to. You recognize that you have been compelled to grow up too fast.

Carrying the baggage of an openly wounded child keeps you living in the past. You keep alive the story of your past of abandonment, abuse, betrayal, rejection, guilt and shame. Your energy resonates the same vibrational pattern. If you have ever wondered why you attract the same type of experiences, herein lies the reason why.

Your wounded child has no awareness of spiritual lessons. He or she may want to stay hurt, angry and vindictive even. You will need to release the energetic story of your wounded child. As long as you allow your wounded child to be in the driver’s seat, you operate from the same helpless space.

Wounded child healing means caring for yourself so that the things of the past no longer hurt you. You realize your need for healing because you are only hurting yourself most of all, when you carry the baggage around. You do this by acknowledging the wounded child within. You call up the little kid for the unfinished business of loving, nurturing and embracing him or her.

You may initially feel resistant to releasing yourself from the pain of your childhood story. You have identified with it for so long that you suspect you will feel lost without one. After all, you need someone or something to take the blame for your current dysfunctional self or life. You are filled with a sense of righteous anger towards your parents, family or friends for the person you have now become.

Giving up the story is going to put you in great discomfort. Your childhood story is essentially a collection of thoughts of the past. You have to realize that you cannot hope to create an empowering life if you do not first release your attachment to an old script.

Freeing Your Wounded Child

For wounded child healing, you may be invited to explore forgiveness. You work on forgiving yourself by letting your inner child that it is not her fault. Also, you may consider if you are willing to forgive those who could have contributed to the situation that you are now in.

Taking one or two steps back potentially gives you a clearer picture. For instance, it allows you to see whether your parents have also been emotionally hurt as a result of their own childhood experiences. They have unconsciously inflicted on you what they have suffered as children.

It also boils down to choice. Think about it this way. Decide which you would rather have: continued pain or ultimate freedom?

Your Thoughts Please

I wrote this article in a series of thoughts on self discovery. My thoughts were sparked due to my own personal healing experiences. [Update] I now offer private sessions where we work on healing and reparenting the wounded child. To find out more about working together, apply for a discovery call here.

Over to you. Do you carry around with you a wounded child? What does your inner child say? If you have dealt with wounded or inner child issues, do share what has worked for you.

In Loving Kindness,
Evelyn Lim

Your mindset is made up of beliefs. A rich money mindset is made up of positive beliefs that support your ability to attract financial abundance while a poor mindset is made up of limiting beliefs that hold you back. It is likely  that you have some positive beliefs and some that are limiting. An abundance or rich money mindset is when your positive beliefs outweigh your limiting ones. The opposite is true for a poverty or scarcity mindset. 

Take the Money Mindset Quiz

For a start, find out whether your mindset is set to financial abundance via a money mindset quiz.

Taking the money mindset quiz below lets you reflect on specific beliefs one at a time. Through your answers on the belief statements, the quiz computes whether you have more positive beliefs or limiting ones. While the quiz focuses on money, abundance is defined as all-encompassing that is with spiritual and holistic considerations.

From “Money Averse” to a Money Magnet Mindset

Please be aware that the money mindset quiz only takes into account the number of positive versus limiting beliefs.

For ease of understanding to know where you are at, the results will indicate if you are having a money mindset that says “averse”, “worrier/stress”, “winning” or a “money magnet”. As this is a quiz that is based on a quantitive measure, the result is only indicative. Ultimately, it is the intensity of the belief (how strongly you believe in the statement and how emotionally disrupted that you feel) that counts more than a measure using the number of beliefs.

(Update) One respondent wrote to me that he did not quite agree that he has a “winning” money mindset, based on his result. Well, his results just means that he has more positive than limiting ones regarding money. At the same time, he is made aware that he has to work on letting go of those beliefs that are holding him back.

Limiting money beliefs often create negative emotional disruption that obstruct the flow of abundance. They sabotage the best of your intentions, causing you to manifest a financial situation that is less than ideal. The more you believe in a negative thought pattern, the greater your disruption. Hence, it is best to let go of limiting money beliefs.

Conversely, the more you believe in a positive money belief, the greater is your ability to attract and manifest abundance. An overall positive money mindset aligns your energy with an abundance blueprint.

What is Your Result from the Money Mindset Quiz Like?

How did it go with the money mindset quiz? Share your thoughts and answer below.

If you have other questions or need help to work on your deeper issues, please apply for a discovery call here.

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim 
Transformation Life Coach
P.S. The links in this post have been updated in Aug 2024. 

How Our Childhood Experiences Affect Us 

Children don’t just need food, cloth and shelter. As children, we look to our parents for love and support. Also, we need them for guidance on important life skills.  For example, we learn from our parents on how to manage emotions, how to treat ourselves, make decisions or to set limits. Our parents are models for unconditional love and what healthy relationships look like.   

In reality, many people do not have the perfect childhood. Our parents might have emotionally neglected us, for instance. They were far too busy trying to make a living. Or they were not expressive themselves and failed to acknowledge our feelings. However, as we know now, any absence of emotional connection can impair the healthy growth and development of a child. 

When we were young, we might have been disciplined in harsh ways that led us to believe that they did not love us. One client I know was whipped by her dad with a cane whenever she was deemed to be a naughty child. Another client was often told that she would amount to nothing if she failed her exams. A third client would end up with bruises from being punished for her disobedience. These are devastating real-life stories from clients who sought help for healing their past trauma. 

It is also possible that we were not guided or taught essential life skills. After all, our parents weren’t taught themselves either. They could have come from broken homes, suffered from abuse or had addiction problems. With no guidance or role models, they weren’t fully equipped nor have the resources to become better parents. 

So it is that we weren’t given adequate support, safety and assurance that any child would have wanted. Since they were hardly around for us, we could not develop trust. The result is that we grew up feeling insecure and unhappy. 

Where we believe that we are unlovable, we can feel the lack. Many clients reported to feeling numbed but as soon as they were willing to uncover their deeper fears about not feeling loved, they described sensing a gaping hole in the heart.  Not surprisingly, experiencing a lack on the inside can drive anyone to look for ways to fill the gap; such as entering into relationships with partners and hoping that they would complete us. We develop insecure attachment styles, thus creating problems in our relationships. 

Reparenting Yourself with Love

If we are to grow to be healthy adults, we need to learn important social and emotional skills and have the opportunities to  practice them. At the core, what we need is love and we will need to find ways to address the lack. Fortunately, the answer lies in reparenting. In fact, as I call it….

Reparenting is an essential component of a healthy self-love practice. 

When we no longer look to others for love and approval, we are likely to be less emotionally triggered and reactive today. Our decisions are driven less by the fear of rejection or abandonment and feeling the lack. Thus, we are  more empowered to make wiser choices.

In the past, I had not realised how childhood emotional neglect and not having my feelings acknowledged can create challenges like having low confidence. Fortunately, I found out how it is possible to reparent myself. 

It is with reparenting that I grew in acceptance, confidence and compassion. The result is an increased ability to take charge and inspiring others to do the same 🙂  

Since we can’t change the past of how we were parented, the best that we can do now is to reparent our inner child. When we choose to do so, we are taking responsibility. We release any blame targeted at our parents and instead, direct our attention to healing ourselves. With reparenting, we are connecting with our inner child with assurance, care, and guidance. We give our inner child advice that is much needed.  

Check out my latest course on How to Reparent Yourself and Heal Your Inner Child. 


To your well-being, 
Evelyn Lim 
Reparenting Coach
Self-Love Healing Specialist

Childhood wounds are, after all, invisible to us.

And if we can’t see them through our naked eye, why does it matter whether we are carrying them or not?

Well, it may well explain contributing reasons behind our current day issues like

•  anxiety
• depression
• constant insecurity
• low self-esteem
• inability to find loving relationships
• inability to have better success,
• etc

In other words, just because we can’t visually see our wounds does not mean that they don’t exist.

As I understand, according to Sigmund Freud, they are hidden in the deep recesses of our psyche, buried deep in the unconscious. We repress our pain, hurt and anger in these wounds. Because they are yet to be resolved, they can blindside us. It is why we are often in self-sabotage.

Thus, if we don’t heal our past wounds, they can bleed into everything that we do or encounter today.

“We have to listen to the child we once were, the child who still exists inside us. That child understands magic moments. We can stifle its cries, but we cannot silence its voice.The child we once were is still there.” Paul Coelho

Neglecting Our Childhood Wounds

The wounds that we carry are often related to our childhood.

Anxiety originating from traumatic experiences in our past is hidden from consciousness, and can cause problems during adulthood (in the form of neuroses). Hence, if we are interested to work on addressing anxiety, depression or our problems today at root cause, it is vital that we dig deeper into our unconscious so that we can find our inner child and to resolve her needs.

Most of us would dismiss our negative childhood experiences as anything major since it wasn’t as if we went through anything life-threatening.

Even if there was a traumatic episode, we have been taught not to make things a big deal.

Nor do we want to be accused of dwelling in the past or blame our parents for the lack of a happy childhood.

We have been taught to be strong, positive and optimistic with messages like “don’t cry”, “suck it up” or “don’t be a weakling”.

What we may not realise is that positive psychology can work against us if we keep bypassing our emotions!

Just because we have applied a band-aid so that we appear well on the outside, does not mean that there is no injury on the inside.

It would serve anyone to know that emotional neglect, where no physical abuse is made, can also inflict invisible wounds.

Wounds form because there are unresolved issues that our inner child is holding on to. Hence, if we find ourselves in repeated patterns of self-sabotage or a constant feeling of anxiety, depression or emptiness, we need to dig deeper. We will need to bring the unconscious to the conscious.

3 Steps in Healing Our Invisible Childhood Wounds

Since our inner child lies in the unconscious, we will need to meet her there.

We will need to trace back to the root event or cause to find out where she is hurting or having unresolved needs. 

As I call it, we work on Self-Love Healing in an energetic, integrative and wholistic way.

I’d like to propose that we work on healing in 3 ways…
(1) Emotional. We reconnect with our inner child at the subconscious, apply healing salve to the wounds with Love and help her to release repressed emotions with EFT tapping. 
(2) Mental. We reparent our inner child with positive beliefs, support and guidance. 
(3) Spiritual. We complete the integration by rewriting the entire vibrational story from the inside-out with quantum work in the matrix energy field. 

When we include all 3 steps, we are able to send a positive effect that ripples across all aspects and areas of our life today. By releasing ourselves from the past, we have the freedom to make a different choice in the way forward. Our health, relationships and well-bing improves, consequently. 

“The inner child lives within all of us, it’s the part of us that feels emotions and is playful, intuitive, and creative. Usually hidden under our grown-up persons, the Inner Child holds the key to intimacy in relationships, physical and emotional we-being, recovery from addictions, and the creativity and wisdom of our inner selves.” Lucia Capacchione 

Need more help? Interested to work on Self-Love Inner Child healing? Learn how to reparent yourself in my starter course. Or, apply for a discovery call to find out more about working together in 1:1 personal sessions. 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Self-Love Healing Therapist 
Accredited EFT & Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner

Creating A Personal Energy Shield for Protection

Each and every one of us has the ability to create personal energy shields. Since we are all energy, shields are simply an extension of ourselves. In the movie, Star Wars, we know energy as The Force. As narrated in the movie, The Force is a binding, metaphysical and ubiquitous power in the universe of the galaxy. Yoda points out that “a Jedi’s strength flows from the Force” while training Luke Skywalker; Yoda also explains that “you must feel the Force around you.”

Because we are all connected, we can get affected by the negative energies of another. This happens when we have a weak energetic boundary. It is when we allow others to invade into our “space” or field. An energetic boundary is an invisible shield that screens incoming and outgoing energy. It keeps our own energy field within a closed, safe and contained system. Holistic well-being arises when we have healthy, vibrant and luminous personal energy.

Thus, the first thing to know is that no one can invade our “space” without our permission. A big part of energy leakage is caused by the failure on our part to take actions to protect ourselves. Oh yes, it is our personal responsibility. We cannot shift the entire blame to others if we leak energy. It is very important that we take steps for self-care and protection.

Signs of Energy Leakage

What are the signs of energy leakage? Signs can be one or more of the following: feeling persistently tired, a sense of chaotic energy, constantly ill, heaviness and migraines as a result of contact with others.

An empath or someone highly sensitive and compassionate can be like a “sponge”. Empaths are prone to soaking up unwanted energy from others. They unconsciously absorb the feelings, difficulties or pain of others. When they do, they carry an extra load of negative energy that can affect their clarity.

The thing is to remain vigilant if this is the case for you. You need to learn how to shield yourself appropriately, even whilst you are sympathetic to the problems of another and wish to help.

Types of Energy Shield

There are many ways that you can create a personal energy shield for protection, such as visualising that you are inside a cobalt-blue egg, circle of love, roses and so on.

All variations are just as effective if and only if conscious intention is used to create one. Random thinking does not count. You won’t also want to create a weak and sloppy one with holes. The idea is to focus your mind and use your senses to experience the shield.

I share one variation of an energy shield that will be useful for Lei, since she needs to protect herself from toxic people.

Pink Rose Quartz and Mirrors Personal Energy Shield for Protection

1. Be quiet for a while.

2. Release any stresses or tensions that you feel and relax.

3. Take in a few deep breaths.

4. Focus your mind on creating an energy shield using light from source. Make this shield cobalt blue as it is the colour for protection.

5. Set the intention first. Intention matters. An example goes like this:

I set the intention for an energy shield of Divine Love, Light and Wisdom to protect me from all interfering dissonant energies to Pure Source.

6. For this shield, visualise and tangibly feel yourself surrounded by a wall of mirrors – around, over and under. The mirrors face out. Hence, if there is negative energy that is directed towards you, it is reflected back outwards. Your personal energy shield for protection is completely sealed so that no external negative energy can enter.

7. At the same time, make the intention to allow only love to pass through both ways.

8. With you inside this shield, you may want to visualise yourself surrounded and embraced by the energy of pink rose quartz.

9. See, sense and feel the completeness of the energy shield for a few moments. Hold that in place with your intention.

10. For your future reference, make a mental note of how the shield feels like. This will make it easy for you to bring it back into existence whenever you need it. You will need to repeat steps 1-9 as the shield dissipates over time.

Bonus Energy Shield Tip #1. You can also call upon your spiritual team for extra protection from all people who are toxic and negative. Don’t be surprised when you receive evidence of their support.

Bonus Energy Shield Tip #2. Before you step out of your room in the mornings, make creating personal energy shields as part of your getting up ritual! If you perceive that there are any gaps, cracks or holes, just repair it with new mirrors.

Bonus Energy Shield  Tip #3: The Mirrors Protection Shield is also excellent if you need to go into a crowded space. Protect yourself before entering a bus, train or shopping mall.

Bonus Energy Shield Tip #4: You can also create your own protection shields using essential oils. In fact, if you need to apply energy shields regularly and for convenience purposes, consider creating aura protection with essential oils.

Bonus Energy Shield Tip #5: Create a personal energy shield for your inner child to protect her from taking on negative energies. It’s a way to keep her safe from harm. 

How to Create a Personal Energy Shield – Video Update

Share Your Favorite Personal Energy Shield for Protection

Share your favorite visualisation for an energy shield, if you have one.

Love and Abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Alchemy Life Coach

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Emotional bypassing happens when we don’t allow ourselves to fully process our negative feelings. Instead, we sweep them under the carpet or we gloss over them by “willing” the mind to think positively. Say, something traumatic happens to us. We don’t face it because we fear feeling worse off. Thus, instead of grieving or upset, we simply put on a brave front and pretend that all is fine. 

Felicia (not her real name) and I had worked together on releasing her fear of abandonment.

If we find ourselves getting angry, frustrated, anxious or upset easily, we may want to ask ourselves why we are triggered. Some of us would get badly triggered when we perceive that we have been abandoned or rejected even though in reality, it may not be necessarily true. However, this can hurt our relationships, work life and well-being. It was exactly what had happened to Felicia. 

Do You Have the Fear of Abandonment? 

Do you often feel “left behind”, “don’t belong” or as if you “are unwanted”?

Do you often experience a gap, emptiness or void in your heart?

Is abandonment or a fear of abandonment a repeated theme in your life?

Were you ever “abandoned” by your parents or caregivers when you were young?

If you have got specific past memories that could cause you to create the fear of abandonment, consider doing some emotional healing work to release the trauma. 

We experience “not belonging” because we can’t seem to fit in. It may be that we are not comfortable in our own skin, to begin with. Or that we are afraid of being hurt because we hold the fear of rejection. The conviction that we are not wanted arises when we find out that friends are leaving us out from their social circles or are not asking us out. 

Many of my clients who are spiritual seekers confess to feeling the same way. They feel like an “alien” on this planet especially when their beliefs, ideas and values differ from commonly held ones. Holding on to disconnection, they question what their purpose in life is. 

Then, there are the introverts and empaths. Introverts need plenty of “me” space and alone time whereas empaths find it necessary to protect themselves. Within this group, those who keep to themselves excessively can also develop the belief of “being unwanted” especially where they have decided not to engage. They go through the constant conflict of not knowing what they want. 

All these can contribute to the perception of “not belonging”. 

Working through “I Don’t Belong”

Well, as someone who is 
– an introvert
– a spiritual seeker of truths 
– a conscious solopreneur
– on her self-discovery journey on planet Earth, 
I have felt different from others. 

There have been certainly many times when I perceive that I don’t belong. After all, not just personality differences, I have also taken an unconventional path from the ones that my close friends have chosen. I was the odd one out with not adopting the Christian religion , not working in a corporate job and refusing to buy into commonly held beliefs. 

Fortunately, over the years, I have worked through enough of my issues to be okay with being different. I have learned to accept myself and to embrace the journey that I am on. Loving who I am and what I do certainly helps! 

The fact is: it’s actually “normal” to be different.

After all, there are no two people completely alike.

Problems arise when we start to believe that there is something fundamentally wrong with us, leading us to cut off connection with others and feeling isolated. We may also believe that we are not worthy of relationships because we are different. For those with the problem of “not belonging”, feelings of isolation can be exacerbated due to the pandemic and needing to stay home. 

Obviously, it is not healthy to hold on to feeling unwanted and the belief of “not belonging” and it is best to release them. Even though we are and feel different, it is possible to form loving relationships. We are able to see the beauty in everyone and accept that we don’t have to be all the same. 

5 ways to overcome the unwanted feeling of “I don’t Belong”

1. Learn to love and accept ourselves

Understand that everyone is unique. Embrace who we are. Even if we are not as extroverted or as attractive. Or are socially awkward. Or have flaws. Or not as eloquent. 

Stop relying on others to meet our needs for love. Let go of any insecure attachment. Apply the F.L.Y. principle – First Love Yourself! Loving ourselves involves accepting every part of who we are and knowing that there is nothing wrong with being different or unique. When we are able to accept ourselves, our ability to accept others – who are also unique in their own way – also increases. 

2. Release any childhood abandonment issues

Addressing problems at root cause potentially involves working on releasing the belief of “I don’t belong”. Indeed, holding on to the subconscious belief of “not belonging” can create feelings of sadness, disappointment and disconnection today. The belief is usually rooted in some past issue such as childhood abandonment or rejection when we were young.

It may be that we were rejected in the past by our friends when we were in school or that we felt that there is something wrong with us when we were being singled out as different. When incidents like these happen, we may end up building a wall of protection around us. Unfortunately, this stop us from opening our hearts to others. We hold on to the unhealed hurt. 

Resolving the trauma that led to creating the limiting belief is going to help! Work with a coach or therapist for healing and transformation. Read how Rose addressed feeling unwanted in her story here. Reach out to me if you need help! 

3. Find hobbies that involves interaction and join social groups

As we work on releasing the past, we also join activities and social groups which offer us the opportunity to make new friends. It may mean that for a start, we are joining these activities on our own. What would help is to muster some courage and work through the discomfort of showing up alone.

It may be that we need to learn social skills and how to improve our relationships with others. Examples include how to make eye contact, practice empathy and active listening. We can also find a role model to learn from. 

Great sites for joining groups to check out: meetup.com or eventbrite.com. 

4. Create safety around belonging

It would be helpful to create safety by surrounding ourselves with like-minded people or those who are kind and caring.

If feelings of isolation start to creep up, call up old friends with whom we feel comfortable with and arrange for a meet-up.

Search also for  groups with similar traits to join – such as people who are introverts, sensitive, empaths etc.

5. Align with purpose 

Finding a purpose can potentially offer more meaning in life and create a sense of belonging when we are aware that our contribution makes a difference to others. Even if we don’t know what our big why is, we can start with doing something small. For example, volunteering to deliver food to the homeless or spending time with an an elderly neighbour down the street. 

From “Not Belonging” to “I Belong”

Ultimately, healing any abandoned or rejected parts of ourselves leads us back into wholeness. We embrace every part of who we are – even though we appear to be different from others. While we appear to be different, we also understand that we are not very different in our needs for love, connection, belonging and acceptance. 

To let love in, we need to open our hearts. We are worthy of having close relationships. One affirmation that I like to make…

It is safe to show up as my authentic self and to also, belong.

May the affirmation and tips in this article work for you too! 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn

For a start, it may seem impossible to will away the perception of scarcity. After all, limits are very much a natural part of our physical life. Just think about it, there is 24 hours in a day, 60 minutes in an hour and 60 seconds in one minute. You have got to finish the work that needs to be done within a certain time frame.

Then, there is also ageing and the cycle of life and death. The physical world has some kind of built-in mechanism where conditions and limits are already preset.

It was also where my confusion came in as well.

For a long time, I had trouble reconciling the ideas of abundance and scarcity. There is the experience of scarcity at physical life because we cannot escape time-space constraints and yet, metaphysical teachers say that the Universe is one of abundance and that we are infinite. So it feels as if both these ideas are on polar ends.

My mind just could not fully grasp or make sense of having scarcity and abundance co-exist together. Hence, no matter how hard I tried to “will” myself to believe that the Universe is abundant, I had the niggling doubt that it could be absolutely true because my experience of the physical world had been otherwise. I was experiencing contrast. 

Is the same conflict bothering you too? Well, when there is non-congruency, it is hard to embody the energy of abundance. Thus, with experiencing scarcity in the physical world, you hit a block each time the mind goes up against a limit. Invariably, you would tell yourself, “there is not enough”. Going up against a limit can set off panic buttons or alarm bells.

To beat money scarcity, you may have even chase after ways to plug the hole. You find yourself working a lot harder and longer, which if you are to reflect, rarely fixes the problem of scarcity or limit that exists in the mind.

What Money Scarcity is NOT Teaching You

Money is being printed based on monetary policies by the central bank or government, so technically there is lots of cash in the financial system. Hence a situation of financial lack is only true according to your own physical experience of money.

A situation of money scarcity is not teaching you to dwell in misery. It is certainly not asking you to keep awake at night. Or to blame your spouse, the government or tax authorities either.

Let’s acknowledge that there can be limits in the physical world where certain resources are limited and hence, you experience scarcity. On the other hand, it helps to remember that scarcity and limits can also be a construct of the ego. When you identify too much with limiting thoughts, you can hold yourself back from achieving what you do want. 

If you can recall, your soul did choose to experience scarcity in an incarnation, so that it can embody the truth of its divine nature. Contrast allows for experiential knowing. Your soul can only know abundance through having a contrasting situation in a physical life. It’s like you will not know what cold is without the contrasting experience of heat. Or it’s hard to figure out what love is without going through fear in an experience.

An experience of financial lack is something that you can choose to reverse. As much as we can undertake measures or strategies to “make more money”, it also involves an inside-out approach where you first reawaken to the truth. By reminding yourself the truth of your being and reconnecting with  sense of worthiness , you can then make the inner shift that often translates to manifesting the truth on the outside: that abundance (including money) is actually available to you!

What Money Scarcity is Teaching You Instead

Remember this: limits are not dead ends.

What scarcity is truly teaching you is about appreciating what is important:

* Are you appreciating life?

* Are you making the best use of a limited life span?

* Are you making the best use of limited resources?

* Are you embracing what appears to be finite: time, money and the life energy of your family and friends?

In short, scarcity is teaching you to redirect your focus.

When you start to put your attention on the things that matter, illusion dissolves. There is no need to grasp, cling or hanker for something out there because there is already the richness of life! Indeed, this is where you practice gratitude! 

Material things do not last. Money doesn’t. You become awakened to the truth that you are a divine soul. In that moment of deep realisation, your soul recognises abundance as a quintessential quality of its eternal being. It is when you embody the inner experience of the awakening that true abundance manifests in the physical world.

Would like to make a Relation-SHIFT in the way you think and feel about money and yourself? Check out my course on Transforming Your Relationship with Money here…

Share your thoughts with what scarcity or money scarcity is really teaching you in the comments below 🙂

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim 
Abundance Coach
Life Coach for Women

P.S. Have got money blocks that you’d like to address? 

Until recently, I associated mindset with having a rah-rah ring to it. Perhaps it is because I’ve attended a number of mindset classes whereby success coaches would use highly motivational tones for raising the energy levels in the room. “Yes, you can do it!” they would shout in a rallying voice.

The problem is that mostly, after the day of such events, I had observed that the energy spikes don’t last. They fizzle out. I would return to the same energy levels as before and not much has changed.

Still, I resonate with the idea of a growth mindset.

As an avid learner, I find myself very interested in self development. I enjoy learning, reading and upgrading myself. Instead of personal grooming, I find myself more obsessive over personal growth!

After reflecting over, I would like to propose the idea of developing a spiritual growth mindset, and not just a growth mindset. A spiritual growth mindset would be one that is more sustaining, conscious and expansive. Let me share some of my thoughts below.

Spiritual Growth Mindset: Set the Intention

A spiritual mindset supports the intention to lead a soulfully conscious life. Now that you are awakening in consciousness, you would like to view life with a spiritually aligned lens. Usually people understand mindset as a set of beliefs or attitude. The beliefs let you frame the situation that you are in. They determine your perception, of how you see things. Whether you interpret things to be positive or negative, your mindset has a huge part to play in it.

A spiritual mindset is not just about having a set of uplifting beliefs. Rather, it also refers to a set of spiritually aligned beliefs that influence your reactions and behavior. Your mindset is a frame of mind that helps you move towards a set of outcomes. Your beliefs are framed by your awareness of your spiritual nature. They guide you in terms of making conscious choices that support your growth.

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Beliefs are made up of thoughts. When thoughts become conditioned and habitual, you define yourself by them and who you can become. They influence you at the identity level. Many people struggle because they fail to examine the beliefs that they had unconsciously created or made in the past.

Problems arise when they identify with mistaken ideas. If you are hoping to discover your true nature or find out who you really are (the “I” or “I am”), you will need to shed off the layers of untruths. These untruths are likely to prevent you from reaching your highest potential.

Which Mindset Ae You Having? Fixed or Growth Mindset?

Carol Dweck is a professor of psychology at Stanford University, who has done extensive research over the last 30 years on how thoughts determine success. She makes the distinction between having a growth and a fixed mindset.

In a fixed mindset, you believe that success is based on innate ability such as intelligence and talent. You see them as “fixed” traits. And so, you spend your time proving your intelligence or talent instead of developing them.

With a fixed mindset, you are inclined to believe that you cannot achieve success where you are not smart enough. If you believe that you are not born with the right genes or traits, you could decide to adopt a defeatest attitude because it is as if there is nothing that you can do to change your fate. As a result, you limit your learning and become unwilling to invest in your own growth.

Conversely, in a growth mindset, you believe that success is based on hard work, learning, training and persistence. Even if you have brains and talent, you understand that they are just the starting point. You have an “incremental view” that is behind your love for learning and an attitude of resilience.

In a growth mindset, your focus is less on the outcome but more on what can be achieved by taking part in the learning process. You also understand that no one has ever scaled great heights —not Mozart, Picasso or Michael Jordan—without years of consistent practice. You enjoy modelling success so that you can up your game.

What her research has essentially proven is this: Your altitude depends on your attitude!

Modelling The Success Mindset For Spiritual Growth

Mindset is something that all great CEOS, successful entrepreneurs, thought leaders and Olympic athletes know. They have mindset coaches to help them achieve higher and higher breakthroughs and they also surround themselves with mentors, peers and team members with a positive growth mentality. It’s how glass ceilings are shattered and new records are broken every other day.

Making the choice to view and approach life from a spiritual angle, would involve developing a spiritual mindset. And so, it is holistic. In my opinion, true success has to incorporate spirituality.

Develop a Spiritual Growth Mindset for Manifesting Success and Abundance 

I have since found that developing a positive mindset as not an overnight thing. It takes study, reading, attending classes, integrating belief changes and upgrades in energy system on an on-going basis.

The Secret to Manifesting True Success lies in developing a Spiritual Growth Mindset! 

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There are energy or visioning tools that you can use for leveraging the power of your mind. 

A spiritual growth mindset is developed through a process of up leveling and alchemy. You make it a consistent practice and applying follow throughs in your every day life. It involves mindfulness, directing your thoughts and with awareness about Universal laws, such as the Law of Attraction, Law of Karma, Law of Non-attachment and so on.

A Spiritual Growth mindset is one that helps you to up-level your life, aids you in achieving overall success and supports you in your soul growth. 

With the power of a Spiritual Growth Mindset, you work on manifesting success that is aligned with your soul purpose!

A final note: if you are interested to work on achieving success breakthroughs in a conscious way, find a spiritual growth mindset coach. Apply here if you are interested to work together with me 🙂 

To your brilliant success!

Love and abundance always,

Abundance Coach
Spiritual Growth Mindset Mentor

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[Update 2020] This post has been updated to offer a more detailed description of what a Spiritual Growth Mindset is.