Well, I’d like to offer a brief description of what I understand “wounded child healing” to be.

[Note: I’m re-publishing this article as it is still relevant till today;-)]

What is Wounded Child Healing

The “wounded child” is an archetype which contains damaged or negative emotional patterns of our youth. It may help to improve your understanding if we can draw reference from the lyrics to the song “Childhood” by Michael Jackson…

Before you judge me, try hard to love me,
Look within your heart then ask,
Have you seen my Childhood?
People say I’m strange that way
‘Cause I love such elementary things,
It’s been my fate to compensate,
For the Childhood I’ve never known…

Loving The Wounded Child

Loving the wounded child is about healing ourselves through acknowledging the trauma and hurt that we suffered when we were young and then freeing ourselves from them. As adults, we unconsciously allowed these memories to dictate how we run our lives. Our coping mechanisms were meant to protect us at one stage but they may no longer serve us.

Here is something for you to think about…

The outer story of your adult life, thus far, reflects the inside story of your wounded child.

We hold dysfunctional self images through the stories of our childhood. How we perceive ourselves is pretty much driven by the childhood programming that we have had. Our childhood programming is largely influenced by our caregivers, who represented the world to us while we were young. We form relationships based on what we learn from our parents. Our parents in turn learn about theirs from their parents. So it is in us that we have layers and layers of beliefs, patterns and behavior passed down from generation to generation.

Yet, as much as not wishing to be like any of our parents, we may find ourselves having adopted the same patterns, behavior and attitudes. It often comes as no surprise to some of us on how we end up in similar patterns. We may not recognize it at first but the patterns are the same recurring themes.

Negative patterns essentially bear the same emotional pain energy even though they may take on different forms. Anorexia, obesity or alcoholism may be traced to negative self images perpetuated by our parents during our younger days. It is possible that our current feelings of rejection originate from childhood.

While there are the rare courageous few who rise above their traumas, the vast majority of us carry the wounds of our childhood around. The same patterns manifest in every aspect of our lives; at home, in the office; in the relationships we have with our spouses, kids, parents or friends; or even physically.

Wounded Child Healing: Releasing the Trauma

Indeed, the wounds of your inner child can create much havoc in the relationships you have with yourself and others. Through healing, you confront the archetypal force within your psyche. With confronting rather than stifling the voice, you release the emotional charge that your wounded child holds on to. You recognize that you have been compelled to grow up too fast.

Carrying the baggage of an openly wounded child keeps you living in the past. You keep alive the story of your past of abandonment, abuse, betrayal, rejection, guilt and shame. Your energy resonates the same vibrational pattern. If you have ever wondered why you attract the same type of experiences, herein lies the reason why.

Your wounded child has no awareness of spiritual lessons. He or she may want to stay hurt, angry and vindictive even. You will need to release the energetic story of your wounded child. As long as you allow your wounded child to be in the driver’s seat, you operate from the same helpless space.

Wounded child healing means caring for yourself so that the things of the past no longer hurt you. You realize your need for healing because you are only hurting yourself most of all, when you carry the baggage around. You do this by acknowledging the wounded child within. You call up the little kid for the unfinished business of loving, nurturing and embracing him or her.

You may initially feel resistant to releasing yourself from the pain of your childhood story. You have identified with it for so long that you suspect you will feel lost without one. After all, you need someone or something to take the blame for your current dysfunctional self or life. You are filled with a sense of righteous anger towards your parents, family or friends for the person you have now become.

Giving up the story is going to put you in great discomfort. Your childhood story is essentially a collection of thoughts of the past. You have to realize that you cannot hope to create an empowering life if you do not first release your attachment to an old script.

Freeing Your Wounded Child

For wounded child healing, you may be invited to explore forgiveness. You work on forgiving yourself by letting your inner child that it is not her fault. Also, you may consider if you are willing to forgive those who could have contributed to the situation that you are now in.

Taking one or two steps back potentially gives you a clearer picture. For instance, it allows you to see whether your parents have also been emotionally hurt as a result of their own childhood experiences. They have unconsciously inflicted on you what they have suffered as children.

It also boils down to choice. Think about it this way. Decide which you would rather have: continued pain or ultimate freedom?

Your Thoughts Please

I wrote this article in a series of thoughts on self discovery. My thoughts were sparked due to my own personal healing experiences. [Update] I now offer private sessions where we work on healing and reparenting the wounded child. To find out more about working together, apply for a discovery call here.

Over to you. Do you carry around with you a wounded child? What does your inner child say? If you have dealt with wounded or inner child issues, do share what has worked for you.

In Loving Kindness,
Evelyn Lim

Your mindset is made up of beliefs. A rich money mindset is made up of positive beliefs that support your ability to attract financial abundance while a poor mindset is made up of limiting beliefs that hold you back. It is likely  that you have some positive beliefs and some that are limiting. An abundance or rich money mindset is when your positive beliefs outweigh your limiting ones. The opposite is true for a poverty or scarcity mindset. 

Take the Money Mindset Quiz

For a start, find out whether your mindset is set to financial abundance via a money mindset quiz.

Taking the money mindset quiz below lets you reflect on specific beliefs one at a time. Through your answers on the belief statements, the quiz computes whether you have more positive beliefs or limiting ones. While the quiz focuses on money, abundance is defined as all-encompassing that is with spiritual and holistic considerations.

From “Money Averse” to a Money Magnet Mindset

Please be aware that the money mindset quiz only takes into account the number of positive versus limiting beliefs.

For ease of understanding to know where you are at, the results will indicate if you are having a money mindset that says “averse”, “worrier/stress”, “winning” or a “money magnet”. As this is a quiz that is based on a quantitive measure, the result is only indicative. Ultimately, it is the intensity of the belief (how strongly you believe in the statement and how emotionally disrupted that you feel) that counts more than a measure using the number of beliefs.

(Update) One respondent wrote to me that he did not quite agree that he has a “winning” money mindset, based on his result. Well, his results just means that he has more positive than limiting ones regarding money. At the same time, he is made aware that he has to work on letting go of those beliefs that are holding him back.

Limiting money beliefs often create negative emotional disruption that obstruct the flow of abundance. They sabotage the best of your intentions, causing you to manifest a financial situation that is less than ideal. The more you believe in a negative thought pattern, the greater your disruption. Hence, it is best to let go of limiting money beliefs.

Conversely, the more you believe in a positive money belief, the greater is your ability to attract and manifest abundance. An overall positive money mindset aligns your energy with an abundance blueprint.

What is Your Result from the Money Mindset Quiz Like?

How did it go with the money mindset quiz? Share your thoughts and answer below.

If you have other questions or need help to work on your deeper issues, please apply for a discovery call here.

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim 
Transformation Life Coach
P.S. The links in this post have been updated in Aug 2024. 

Coaching vs Counselling: Focus

Coaching is primarily future-focused and goal-oriented. Coaches work with clients to identify their aspirations, set specific goals, and develop actionable plans to achieve them. The process is dynamic and often involves challenging clients to step out of their comfort zones, so that they can realise their full potential. Coaching is commonly used in professional development, career transitions, leadership training, and personal growth. The relationship between coach and client is typically collaborative, with an emphasis on accountability and measurable progress.

Some people use the words “counselling” or “therapy” interchangeably, whereas others make a clear distinction. Counselling typically focuses on specific issues or problems. It is often short-term and centers on providing practical advice and strategies to help individuals manage particular situations, such as coping with stress, dealing with a loss, or navigating a career change. Counsellors are generally trained to offer support, guidance, and education to help clients develop effective coping skills.

Therapy, or psychotherapy, is generally more in-depth and long-term. It aims to address deeper, underlying psychological issues that may be contributing to a person’s distress. Therapists evaluate and treat mental health concerns like anxiety disorders, mental illness, behavioural problems, alcohol and substance abuse. They help their clients heal trauma and develop healthier coping strategies. Therapy often involves exploring a person’s thoughts, emotions, and behaviours to uncover patterns that might be rooted in past experiences. This process helps clients gain a better understanding of themselves and make more profound changes to improve their overall mental health.

For a meaningful comparison to coaching, we will group both “counselling” and “therapy” as one big area.

Coaching vs Counselling (Therapy): Approaches and Techniques

Coaches utilise a variety of techniques to facilitate growth and achievement. These may include motivational interviewing, goal-setting frameworks, and performance assessments. Coaching sessions are typically structured, with a clear agenda and specific outcomes to be achieved. Coaches may also incorporate tools such as personality assessments and feedback mechanisms to help clients gain insights and track their progress.

Counsellors (and therapists) employ therapeutic techniques based on psychological theories and practices. These might include cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), psychodynamic therapy, and humanistic approaches. Counselling sessions are generally more flexible and client-driven, allowing for in-depth exploration of issues as they arise. Techniques such as active listening, reflection, and guided self-exploration are commonly used to help clients gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their experiences.

Obviously, there are overlaps between what a coach and a counsellor do. For example, coaches also use techniques such as active listening and they hold safe spaces for clients to reflect and to process their experiences. Counsellors can also help their clients to address their stress levels, so that they can improve their performance at work.

Coaching vs Counselling (Therapy): Qualifications and Training

The qualifications and training required for coaches and counsellors differ. Coaches often come from diverse professional backgrounds and may hold certifications from recognized coaching organisations, such as the International Coach Federation (ICF). These certifications typically require training in coaching methodologies and adherence to ethical standards, but do not necessarily require a degree in psychology or mental health.

Counsellors (and therapists), however, typically hold advanced degrees in psychology, counselling, or social work, and must be licensed to practice in their respective fields. This licensing process involves rigorous academic training, supervised clinical experience, and ongoing professional development. Counsellors are also bound by strict ethical guidelines and standards of practice to ensure the safety and well-being of their clients.

Who to Hire: Coach or Counsellor?

Whether it is better that you work with a coach or counsellor depends on your needs.

When deciding whether to hire a coach or a counsellor, it is crucial to consider the nature and severity of the issues you are facing. If you are dealing with deep mental health issues, such as those outlined in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) eg. depression, anxiety disorders, bipolar disorder, or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), seeking a counsellor or therapist is the more appropriate course of action. These professionals are trained to diagnose and treat mental health conditions, providing therapeutic interventions that can help you manage and overcome these challenges. Other circumstances where therapy is more suitable…

• you need medication to help
• emergency or crisis situation (such as self-harm or suicide ideation)
• active overuse of drugs and alcohol
• need mental health support from trauma-based psychotherapy.

On the other hand, if you are generally mentally able to process thoughts but you are looking to enhance your performance, achieve specific goals, or navigate life transitions, a coach may be the right choice. Coaches can provide the structure, motivation, and accountability needed to help you reach your personal and professional aspirations.

What if you are in a situation that falls in between? Here are some common scenarios…

• you are feeling down because you are going through a difficult period (eg. relationship breakdown) and would like to improve communication between you and your spouse.
• you are suffering from low self-esteem which impacts your ability to reach your goals.
• you are going through anxiety issues but you are still able to show up for work.
• you are in your own way of success due to self-rejection and criticism with an inability to love and accept yourself.

In these scenarios, either a coach or a counsellor can help. But what if you can find a professional who has been trained in more than one discipline?

How Can I Help

As a Certified Coach with ICF with a counselling psychology background and as an accredited advanced EFT practitioner, I work with clients who are mentally able. Clients would like to move towards their goals, but find themselves being held back by their past. We could be working on inner child healing for letting go of past rejection issues and making mindset changes in order to boost confidence. At the same time, be working towards taking goal-related actions. Clients are not just having conversations (whether during either a coaching or a counselling session), we are also targetted in dealing with their emotions on a somatic level (via the use of EFT tapping).

Not to worry, as professionals, we are taught to cross-refer in the event that we believe that a client would benefit more from working with a different practitioner. So if I am not able to assist you, I will be recommending a colleague from the counselling field or another professional who can best fits your needs. I’m glad to have an extensive network of colleagues in the mental health and coaching arena.

What’s important is that you seek help. I highly recommend not suffering in silence or prolonging getting the assistance required. It would be very helpful to have an initial chat with the person that you are considering to work with. It is how you can get a better idea if this person is able to assist you with your challenges.

Apply for a Discovery Call with Me Here

All the best,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Coach

Your money story is the one you often tell to others. It is made up of the issues going on in your current financial situation, the persistent worry that you are experiencing or/and the complaints you have about the economy, property prices, cost of living and so on. It is a story that occupies your mind throughout the day.

As I have found, money stories often act as a smoke screen to deeper underlying issues. At first, it is easy to be mistaken into believing that your financial challenges are caused by a string of bad luck, the fault of the tax authorities, the constant unfair treatment by your employers, the failure of receiving payment on time, or the banks who are out to get you. This being the case, you try to remedy your challenges with band-aide or by rearranging certain aspects of your life.

However, should you step aside for a bit, you may be able to observe money patterns that keep repeating. What you observe are likely to be debilitating cycles of frustration, worry, panic, resentment and anger over finances. Over and over again, you have not been able to truly break free.

Where there is a repeating pattern in your external issues, a root cause could exist internally. 

Feeling intrigued? Read on……

It is what lies below the surface of the iceberg (see above picture illustration) that influences your external actions, behaviour and attitude towards money. This is where the root cause of your money story can be found.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”What’s going on in the inside shows on the outside.” Earl Nightingale[/Tweet]

Here are some of the money stories that various clients reported to having:

– Not able to thrive or make enough in new vocation;
– Inability to have money breakthroughs;
– Stuck at a certain level of income;
– Not able to attract paying clients;
– No pay raise for the last 3 years;
– Not able to revise prices up;
– Deals keep falling through;
– Inability to pay bills;
– Over-extended on credit card;
– Kicked out of dwelling due to inability to pay rent;
– Cannot seem find a job that pays well;
– Living from month to month, and so on.

The problem is that the more you tell a story of lack, the more contractive you feel. What’s important to realise is that if you are hoping to change your situation (things on the outside), you need to start by first changing the energy you have on the inside. Your outer story reflects the inner beliefs that you have about money. In order to dissipate the contractive energy that you feel and believe about money, you will need to uncover the root cause of your troubles.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.” Bryant H. McGill[/Tweet]

How to Unravel the Mystery in the Root Cause 

The following are three steps:

(1) The first step involves awakening into awareness.

Many people do not realise that they have been directly a lot of negative emotional energy with their debilitating stories. Fear keeps them trapped. They are too preoccupied with worry to get clear in their thinking.

In order to break free, you will have shine light into the shadows.

From a non-attached conscious state, ask yourself: What is your true (inner) money story? What are the beliefs you have? Are these beliefs expansive or contractive?

In all likelihood, if you have made yourself out to be a victim and given the lack of money power over your happiness, your beliefs are limiting ones.

(2) The second step involves recalling your childhood stories, so that you can uncover the beliefs that you have formed.

What kind of role models did you grow up with?

Did your parents teach you how to master financial education?

What were some of the beliefs they brought you up with? How did your parents reward you for good behaviour or exam grades in school?

(3) The third step involves uncovering your birth story.

How was your birth like? Did your mother experience a “difficult labor” from giving birth to you? Is that why you view life as a struggle and being difficult?

Did you suffer any trauma when you were born?

Did your parents welcome you with open arms or did they withhold love from you because you are considered a burden?

Solve the Root Cause to Your Money Story

Could it be that behind your money story lies core unresolved issues?

Hidden in the labyrinth are your shadows: birth trauma, childhood memories and collective unconscious patterns.

Within the folds could lie your deepest fear, shame, anger, resentment and grief.

But yes, as I have discovered and many others too, it is possible to dive through the layers and to unravel some of the mystery.

During the internal process, you will realize that your relationship with money is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself and with all others.

{If you have a poor relationship with the self, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money. Likewise, if you have low self-love issues, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money.}

You clear the mystery through deep root healing of your wounded inner child and the energetic release of trauma from past events that have been keeping you stuck.

What is wonderful is that the more you align with the truth of your being, the greater your ability to attract the financial wealth that you deserve. Through financial alchemy, you transmute into the gold of your true being. Ultimately, you radiate in brilliance from the core of your soul.

Love and abundance always,

Evelyn Lim

Transformation Life Coach

P.S. Need personalised coaching on getting to the root cause of your emotional issues? Apply for a 30-min discovery session here. 

P.S.S. This post has been updated in 2024 to correct the links. 

Share Your Thoughts

Share your thoughts about finding the root cause to your money story in the comments below.

Why Heal Your Wounded Inner Teenager

1. Repressed Emotions. Through my work with clients, I’ve encountered individuals who grappled with unresolved teenage turmoil. These were times marked by confusion, vulnerability, and often a lack of guidance to navigate the storm of emotions and societal pressures. Consequently, many suppressed their feelings, burying them deep within their subconscious. This repression, coupled with unmet emotional needs, would build over the years into adulthood.
   If you find yourself getting into emotional overwhelm rather quickly and with an inability to cope, ask yourself if they are related to issues that arise from your teenage years, not just when you were pre-teen. 
2. Body Image Issues. Teenagers go through bodily and hormonal changes and can find it hard to handle their physical challenges. Many feel awkward and having to process societal beauty standards. Some hold on to their body image issues and carry them into adulthood; leading to weight problems, eating disorders or a lack in confidence. 
   If you have got body image issues, check if they first stem from your teenage years. 
3. Reduced Ability to Form Intimate and Fulfilling Relationships. Then, there are also some who experience their first heartbreak or sexual encounter, and that’s when their wounds were formed. Feelings of shame would lie buried in the subconscious for years, causing them to build protective walls that act as barriers to cultivating more satisfying and intimate relationships as they grow up. Some would even swear off marriage relationships due to past teenage trauma.
   If you can’t seem to form intimate and fulfilling relationships, ask yourself if this is due to holding on to unresolved pain, hurt or shame from experiences that are physically or sexually-related from your teenage years. 
4. Unclear About Identity and Feeling Lost in Direction. The teenage years correspond to the time when we seek to find own identity. It’s also the time when we are learning to be independent and to make our own decisions. In order to find ourselves, it may mean having to break away from our parents’ beliefs. During this phase, some confused teenagers may become rebellious as they work out the identity that would define them.
   If you are constantly feeling insecure, indecisive and lost, ask yourself it this is related to your teenage years. It could be that your parents made all the decisions for you or that you had simply adopted other people’s beliefs without clearly processing them. 
   

Benefits to Healing Your Inner Teenager 

Well, the good news is that even though the past is long gone, all is not lost. We can work on healing the inner teenager. It’s similar to doing inner child work, except with considerations of what has gone on during the teenage phase. Whatever hurt or suffering you’ve experienced back then is the key to healing that inner teen today.

Benefits to Doing Inner Teen Work:

1. Calm any nervous tension that originates from your teenage years.
2. Resolve any unmet needs of your teenage self with love, acceptance and care. 
3. Heal the wounds that have been affecting your relationships today.
4. Address issues that are about body image and that could be related to eating disorders or lack in confidence.
5. Reparent the troubled or rebellious part of you with setting boundaries and clear directions for a healthier way forward. 
6. Reclaim the vitality and boundless energy of your inner teen that your adult self may have lost.
7. Rekindle the sense of curiosity and desire to venture out from one’s comfort zone. 

The healthy teenager is at the stage of forging their own identity, with innate curiosity and desire to explore their strengths and interests. Healing and reparenting the inner teenager allows you to restore vitality. Your inner teenage self deserves to be loved, accepted and guided. Set yourself free from your troubled past and be ready to take charge of your life from doing inner teen work.

If you’d like to find out more about working together, request for a discovery call here. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Transformation & Emotional Healing Coach

That was when I discovered about labelling emotions. I also found out hat emotions have meanings and that they convey our deepest needs and desires. Gradually, I learned to sit with my feelings; instead of running away from them. And, I learned about observing them without judgment. As time went on, I was better able to develop greater self-compassion and awareness. My well-being improved, as a result. 

Building Emotional Awareness: Feelings and Their Meanings

My chart offers a guide that could indicate what the various emotions broadly mean. I would ask myself what my unmet need is. By attending to my unmet need, healing becomes a lot more targetted and effective. 

Strive to Build Emotional Awareness

Your emotions provide feedback on how you can realign yourself.

Work on releasing your negative emotions (such as with EFT tapping), so that you can create a positive shift.

Strive for emotional authenticity, honoring the full spectrum of your feelings without judgment or self-censure. Through increased self-understanding, your ability to build empathy and a deeper connection with others increases. By embracing your emotions, you cultivate self-love and acceptance and develop greater resilience in life.

To your well-being
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach

My new book, Mindset Journal for Women, is finally out on Amazon…yay!! It is a journal workbook with prompts to practice positive thinking, mindfulness and to improve mental health. You can find the listing on Amazon here.

For the vast majority of people, nearly 90% of our self-talk is negative. It is reflective of having a negative or limiting mindset. In order to overcome the habitual pattern of negative thinking, we need to consistently work on building a positive mindset. Also, studies show that more women than men go into depression. It is where the Mindset Journal for Women comes in.

What’s the Juice with Mindset Journal for Women

The journal book uses the metaphor of your mind being a garden and you as the gardener.

The floral theme in the interior pages acts as a nice reminder and inspiration. Imagine each page as a fertile patch of soil, ready for your seeds of inspiration to take root. With its floral theme, every turn invites you to immerse yourself in planting seeds of positivity. 

It’s not just daily pages that I have included. I have also incorporated a mini workbook planner in Section A so that you can be introduced to concepts that would be helpful for building foundation. There are guided prompts designed to spark growth, foster gratitude, and to practice mindfulness. Section B features daily, weekly and monthly journal pages that are helpful for habit tracking, reflection and for reviews.

How my Mindset Journal for Women came about

As someone who has experienced self-doubt, imposter syndrome, deep-rooted beliefs of “not good enough” and depression, I know what it feels like to have a negative mindset. During my early adult years, I would suffer from bad episodes of panic from insomnia and an inability to fall asleep. Later, when I started my business and became a mother, these new stages brought its own set of challenges.

My experiences reinforced the knowing about how important it is to have a strong mindset to weather any feelings of overwhelm and stress. I realised that it would be impossible to be successful without a positive frame of mind. As a result, I sought to actively invest and to work on my mindset from 10 years ago. It’s something that I continue to do so till today.

One day, my love for flowers and plants got me thinking about using the metaphor of gardening for growing a healthier mindset. There’s no better way than to encourage others to do it through journaling. My ideas sparked the design for my Mindset Journal for Women. It took me 6 weeks to go from conceptualision and to submitting it for approval by Amazon. 

While I run a small coaching business, I hold the big dream of changing 1-million lives through my low-cost self-published books. My desire is to channel part of the proceeds for supporting women causes. If you believe that the book will be helpful for women who needs to work on themselves, do support my endeavour with a purchase.

Get the Mindset Journal for Women

May I suggest The Mindset Journal for Women as a trusted companion for your personal growth path.

Have it by your side as you cultivate confidence, reach for your goals and bloom into the radiant woman you were always meant to be.

Tend to the Garden of Your Mind and Transform Your Life! 

It’s available on paperback. Get your pens out and start journaling! Make a purchase of the Mindset Journal for Women on Amazon here! 

Thank you for your support, Evelyn LimTransformation Life Coach

Well, I’d like to share my answers with you here, in case you are wondering the same too. 

EFT Tapping for Raising Vibrations

In case this is the first time you are hearing about EFT tapping, it is a therapeutic method where we use the fingertips to tap on specific meridian endpoints on the face and body. EFT tapping is a great tool for releasing emotional disruptions and restoring the body’s energy system. You can find out more about EFT tapping points here or simply subscribe to my newsletter to get a downloadable book on EFT tapping. 

Emotions, just like anything else in the Universe, are energy.

If you have negative emotions, they cause a disruption in your body and create blocks in the energy flow. By tapping on specific meridian points while focusing on the negative emotion, you can effectively release the blockages, allowing energy to flow freely again.

The idea of “raising vibration” happens when you shift your emotional state from a lower vibrational frequency (associated with positive emotions such as fear, anger, or doubt) to a higher vibrational frequency (associated with negative emotions such as joy, love, or gratitude).

After releasing the emotional disruptions, you are likely to find it easier to experience a shift in perspective to a more empowering and supportive one. What’s more, the EFT tapping process often incorporates positive affirmations or statements to counteract negative beliefs or emotions. While tapping, you get to reinforce positive thinking patterns; which contributes to raising your vibrations. Both your thoughts and feelings influence your energy state, after all. 

Raise Your Vibration to Attract What You Want 

Raising your vibration helps to raise your ability to attract an outcome that matches the same frequency.

“Everything is energy and that’s all there is to it. Match the frequency of the reality you want and you cannot help but get that reality. It can be no other way. This is not philosophy. This is physics.” ~ quote often attributed to Albert Einstein

It’s also what the Law of Attraction is about – like attracts like. 

Chances are, the outcomes that you want are situations that energetically have higher vibrations – results or things that are about love, joy and blessings.

If what you want is more money, income or riches, it boils down to how having this is going to enrich your life. This ONE secret is how my clients have been able to make money or sales breakthroughs. 

In short, raise your vibrations to attract what you want in life and one great way to raise your frequency is via using EFT tapping.

If you have more questions, do ask. Get on a call with me here. I’d love to be able to help you with your questions. 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach

Even though the past traumatic experience is now over, our nervous system continues to use the encoded information that is from the distressing memory to disrupt us today. 

Let me attempt to explain further. Say, you find yourself experiencing anxiety symptoms such as nervous tension, dizziness, an inability to keep still or even having meltdowns. If you are to trace back the earliest time when you first had these symptoms, you may realise that your problem originated from the past. Your body is responding or reacting today from what took place years ago. This being the case, it is drawing information from the past and activating your nervous system. Using the picture, you will see how the “zzz” energy disruption is affecting you. 

Your nervous system signals a lack of safety, triggering the instinct to protect yourself often through fight, flight or freeze response. You are also apt to undertake behavioural patterns that put you in self-sabotage. Thus, despite your desire to lead your best life or to move forward, you remain captive to your past.

Note that past trauma need not be big events such as a death, divorce, sexual assault and so on. So long as the event or incident causes you emotional distress, you could potentially be disrupted for years. For example, if your mother ignored your cries for help in the past, the lack of love and feeling unworthy could affect you. And if she had repeatedly ignored you during childhood, you might find yourself always needing to seek approval and ending up in unhealthy relationships. 

How You Can Reverse Self-Sabotage

Fortunately, while you can’t alter the past traumatic events since they happened the way they did, you can still change the energetic information bringing about the distress that is affecting you today.

Since the body keeps the score, a somatic release and the calming of your nervous system is required. You work on clearing the “zzz” energy disruption. Once it is cleared, your past memory may remain but you are not longer affected by what took place in the past. Thus, if you’d like a more effective way of stopping the automatic responses and to reprogram a different response such that you are no longer having nervous tension and so on, the body and the nervous system need to be involved. This is why talk therapy alone is not effective for cases of deep-rooted anxiety, anger or depression. 

By releasing the energetic information and releasing the embodied distress at the root memory when your trauma first began, it becomes possible to free yourself. No longer holding on bottled-up anger and anxiety, you start to feel lighter and better. It’s how you can become more present and gain the freedom to pursue the life that you want. 
Hope the above information is helpful to you. 

Wishing you well-being,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life
To find out more about working together, apply for a Discovery Call.