Your mindset is made up of beliefs. A rich money mindset is made up of positive beliefs that support your ability to attract financial abundance while a poor mindset is made up of limiting beliefs that hold you back. It is likely  that you have some positive beliefs and some that are limiting. An abundance or rich money mindset is when your positive beliefs outweigh your limiting ones. The opposite is true for a poverty or scarcity mindset. 

Take the Money Mindset Quiz

For a start, find out whether your mindset is set to financial abundance via a money mindset quiz.

Taking the money mindset quiz below lets you reflect on specific beliefs one at a time. Through your answers on the belief statements, the quiz computes whether you have more positive beliefs or limiting ones. While the quiz focuses on money, abundance is defined as all-encompassing that is with spiritual and holistic considerations.

From “Money Averse” to a Money Magnet Mindset

Please be aware that the money mindset quiz only takes into account the number of positive versus limiting beliefs.

For ease of understanding to know where you are at, the results will indicate if you are having a money mindset that says “averse”, “worrier/stress”, “winning” or a “money magnet”. As this is a quiz that is based on a quantitive measure, the result is only indicative. Ultimately, it is the intensity of the belief (how strongly you believe in the statement and how emotionally disrupted that you feel) that counts more than a measure using the number of beliefs.

(Update) One respondent wrote to me that he did not quite agree that he has a “winning” money mindset, based on his result. Well, his results just means that he has more positive than limiting ones regarding money. At the same time, he is made aware that he has to work on letting go of those beliefs that are holding him back.

Limiting money beliefs often create negative emotional disruption that obstruct the flow of abundance. They sabotage the best of your intentions, causing you to manifest a financial situation that is less than ideal. The more you believe in a negative thought pattern, the greater your disruption. Hence, it is best to let go of limiting money beliefs.

Conversely, the more you believe in a positive money belief, the greater is your ability to attract and manifest abundance. An overall positive money mindset aligns your energy with an abundance blueprint.

What is Your Result from the Money Mindset Quiz Like?

How did it go with the money mindset quiz? Share your thoughts and answer below.

If you have other questions or need help to work on your deeper issues, please apply for a discovery call here.

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim 
Transformation Life Coach
P.S. The links in this post have been updated in Aug 2024. 

That was when I discovered about labelling emotions. I also found out hat emotions have meanings and that they convey our deepest needs and desires. Gradually, I learned to sit with my feelings; instead of running away from them. And, I learned about observing them without judgment. As time went on, I was better able to develop greater self-compassion and awareness. My well-being improved, as a result. 

Building Emotional Awareness: Feelings and Their Meanings

My chart offers a guide that could indicate what the various emotions broadly mean. I would ask myself what my unmet need is. By attending to my unmet need, healing becomes a lot more targetted and effective. 

Strive to Build Emotional Awareness

Your emotions provide feedback on how you can realign yourself.

Work on releasing your negative emotions (such as with EFT tapping), so that you can create a positive shift.

Strive for emotional authenticity, honoring the full spectrum of your feelings without judgment or self-censure. Through increased self-understanding, your ability to build empathy and a deeper connection with others increases. By embracing your emotions, you cultivate self-love and acceptance and develop greater resilience in life.

To your well-being
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach

My new book, Mindset Journal for Women, is finally out on Amazon…yay!! It is a journal workbook with prompts to practice positive thinking, mindfulness and to improve mental health. You can find the listing on Amazon here.

For the vast majority of people, nearly 90% of our self-talk is negative. It is reflective of having a negative or limiting mindset. In order to overcome the habitual pattern of negative thinking, we need to consistently work on building a positive mindset. Also, studies show that more women than men go into depression. It is where the Mindset Journal for Women comes in.

What’s the Juice with Mindset Journal for Women

The journal book uses the metaphor of your mind being a garden and you as the gardener.

The floral theme in the interior pages acts as a nice reminder and inspiration. Imagine each page as a fertile patch of soil, ready for your seeds of inspiration to take root. With its floral theme, every turn invites you to immerse yourself in planting seeds of positivity. 

It’s not just daily pages that I have included. I have also incorporated a mini workbook planner in Section A so that you can be introduced to concepts that would be helpful for building foundation. There are guided prompts designed to spark growth, foster gratitude, and to practice mindfulness. Section B features daily, weekly and monthly journal pages that are helpful for habit tracking, reflection and for reviews.

How my Mindset Journal for Women came about

As someone who has experienced self-doubt, imposter syndrome, deep-rooted beliefs of “not good enough” and depression, I know what it feels like to have a negative mindset. During my early adult years, I would suffer from bad episodes of panic from insomnia and an inability to fall asleep. Later, when I started my business and became a mother, these new stages brought its own set of challenges.

My experiences reinforced the knowing about how important it is to have a strong mindset to weather any feelings of overwhelm and stress. I realised that it would be impossible to be successful without a positive frame of mind. As a result, I sought to actively invest and to work on my mindset from 10 years ago. It’s something that I continue to do so till today.

One day, my love for flowers and plants got me thinking about using the metaphor of gardening for growing a healthier mindset. There’s no better way than to encourage others to do it through journaling. My ideas sparked the design for my Mindset Journal for Women. It took me 6 weeks to go from conceptualision and to submitting it for approval by Amazon. 

While I run a small coaching business, I hold the big dream of changing 1-million lives through my low-cost self-published books. My desire is to channel part of the proceeds for supporting women causes. If you believe that the book will be helpful for women who needs to work on themselves, do support my endeavour with a purchase.

Get the Mindset Journal for Women

May I suggest The Mindset Journal for Women as a trusted companion for your personal growth path.

Have it by your side as you cultivate confidence, reach for your goals and bloom into the radiant woman you were always meant to be.

Tend to the Garden of Your Mind and Transform Your Life! 

It’s available on paperback. Get your pens out and start journaling! Make a purchase of the Mindset Journal for Women on Amazon here! 

Thank you for your support, Evelyn LimTransformation Life Coach

Even though the past traumatic experience is now over, our nervous system continues to use the encoded information that is from the distressing memory to disrupt us today. 

Let me attempt to explain further. Say, you find yourself experiencing anxiety symptoms such as nervous tension, dizziness, an inability to keep still or even having meltdowns. If you are to trace back the earliest time when you first had these symptoms, you may realise that your problem originated from the past. Your body is responding or reacting today from what took place years ago. This being the case, it is drawing information from the past and activating your nervous system. Using the picture, you will see how the “zzz” energy disruption is affecting you. 

Your nervous system signals a lack of safety, triggering the instinct to protect yourself often through fight, flight or freeze response. You are also apt to undertake behavioural patterns that put you in self-sabotage. Thus, despite your desire to lead your best life or to move forward, you remain captive to your past.

Note that past trauma need not be big events such as a death, divorce, sexual assault and so on. So long as the event or incident causes you emotional distress, you could potentially be disrupted for years. For example, if your mother ignored your cries for help in the past, the lack of love and feeling unworthy could affect you. And if she had repeatedly ignored you during childhood, you might find yourself always needing to seek approval and ending up in unhealthy relationships. 

How You Can Reverse Self-Sabotage

Fortunately, while you can’t alter the past traumatic events since they happened the way they did, you can still change the energetic information bringing about the distress that is affecting you today.

Since the body keeps the score, a somatic release and the calming of your nervous system is required. You work on clearing the “zzz” energy disruption. Once it is cleared, your past memory may remain but you are not longer affected by what took place in the past. Thus, if you’d like a more effective way of stopping the automatic responses and to reprogram a different response such that you are no longer having nervous tension and so on, the body and the nervous system need to be involved. This is why talk therapy alone is not effective for cases of deep-rooted anxiety, anger or depression. 

By releasing the energetic information and releasing the embodied distress at the root memory when your trauma first began, it becomes possible to free yourself. No longer holding on bottled-up anger and anxiety, you start to feel lighter and better. It’s how you can become more present and gain the freedom to pursue the life that you want. 
Hope the above information is helpful to you. 

Wishing you well-being,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life
To find out more about working together, apply for a Discovery Call. 

Do you go over “poor me”, “poor me” and “poor me” in your mind?

You could also be repeating the same thing to the people that you meet too.

“Poor me” is akin to having a victim mentality. You are in self-pity. A “poor me” syndrome arises especially when you are constantly pointing blame outwards. It could be the fault of your grandmother, father, the government, the economy and so on. It is always the fault of someone or something else except yours.

[Side-note] This post is updated as the content is still relevant today.

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the nonpharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure and separates the victim from reality.” John W. Gardner

When you think “poor me”, you find yourself realising situations of poor and poverty at the physical level. Thoughts become things, after all. And you know how it is like when you have a sequence of thoughts that are negative. You start to spiral downwards. Over time, you feel more and more miserable and poor and poorer. Invariably, your situation gets worse and worse.

You may not recognise yourself as having a “poor me” syndrome at first. It could be subtle behind your complaints that “life is hard” or that “life is unfair”. But “poor me” could be the unsaid thought that lies beneath the blame that you feel for the outside world. It happens when you pine for sympathy for your situation.

Playing Out the Poor Me Syndrome – Different Scenarios

Unfortunately, there are many women who fall into the category of “poor me”. They crave for a sense of belonging in sisterhoods. Their idea is to come together to complain and compare who has the worst stories. They are great hosts of pity parties that are long-drawn.

Maybe you are thinking if you whine “poor me”, none of your friends will borrow money from you. You don’t want others to know that you actually have excess money in the bank or that you have just gotten promoted with a nice pay rise. However, holding on to such thoughts is not promoting a sense of growth.

When you blame others, you are saying that you are not responsible. You are not taking charge. In other words, you are giving your power away.

You could be feeling justified anger because it is the government, the tax department or the economy that you are blaming – factors that are outside your control. Then again, should you lay blame on any of these authorities, you are basically allowing an external party or force to determine your happiness or level of wealth. It is still giving power away.

Get Over Your “Poor Me” Mentality

The only “thing” that you can control or change is you and your perspective. You always have a choice in how you intend to view your situation.

Blame obstructs the flow of abundance into your life. It does not serve you in any way. Wallowing in self-pity is not attractive in the least. If you have been around people who are blaming others all the time, you will know how toxic blame can be. You don’t win by playing victim, you win only when you take charge of your power to create and to manifest the life that you want.

Prosperity is a state of mind. Instead of “poor me”, think “rich me”. Focus on the blessings in your life and by virtue of the law of attraction, you will start to draw more blessings into your life.

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” Brian Tracy

Love and Abundance Always,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach 

Share Your Thoughts

Any comments on the “poor me syndrome”? If so, share below.

It’s important to recognise that we are constantly in the process of manifesting. Our thoughts play a significant role in shaping the world we live in. If we focus our mind on negative thoughts, it is more likely that we bring about a negative outcome. On the contrary, if we think more positively about ourselves, our life and about the world, we are more likely to manifest a positive set of results. 

Here’s an example about how our thoughts shape the reality we are in. Let’s say if you are constantly predicting that you are going to fail. This being the case, it is not likely that you will do your very best to find a solution or to make things work. On the other hand, if you believe that you have the potential to succeed, you are less likely to give up so easily. In fact, you will do your best to stay in the game and to figure a way out.

Indeed, it would be helpful to understand more about our mind, so that we can tap into its inherent power in order to actively manifest our ideal outcomes. It’s what I set out to do more than 10 years ago. To put things simply, I’ve come to understand that it boils down to two essential elements when using our minds for manifestation: intention and attention. 

By applying both of these, we are better able to unlock the full potential of our minds for manifesting.

Harness Mind Power: Intention

It begins by setting clear, specific and strong intentions. The clearer you are in what you are wanting with no buts or self-sabotaging thoughts, the more successful you are going to be. Your intention is like a navigating force, providing the direction of your desired outcome. State your intention using clear and simple words.

Harness Mind Power: Attention

What you focus on expands. Thus, practice placing attention on your intention. Obey this 68-second rule for manifestation. Visualise your intention as if it is already true. Feel the emotions, see the details, and experience the journey towards your goals in your mind.

Harnessing the Mind for Manifestation

Over the last decade, I’ve taught others on how they can use the mind to manifest improved outcomes. I’ve observed that when one key element is missing or not in place, manifesting success gets impeded. However, once we were able to identify where the gap is, success rates became higher.

By combining both intention and attention, you are better able to harness the power of the mind for manifesting what you want. Try this spoon bending exercise, so that you can apply your mind power with intention and attention. Stay true to what you are intending to manifest with attention, in order to amplify your manifesting power. The power does not lies outside of you but very much within your mind!

Love and Abundance Always,
Evelyn Lim
Transformation Life Coach

Glimmers are moments that act as cues for self-regulation and for soothing our nervous system. They are tiny moments where we feel relaxed, safe, assured and connected. In contrast triggers cause us to feel threatened. When we are triggered badly, our fight-flight-freeze response can get excessively activated and our nervous system becomes deregulated. 

The concept of glimmers first came from Polyvagal theory.  The theory was introduced by Stephen Porges in 1995 where we learn about how our autonomic nervous system is constantly on the lookout for cues to determine if they are dangerous. “Glimmers” is coined by Deb Dana, a licensed clinical social worker who specialises in complex trauma and also the author of The Polyvagal Therory in Therapy, as a way to help us shift out of survival mode. 

In glimmers, we are invited to appreciate the simple pleasures that often go unnoticed in our lives; such as, the gentle breeze or the peace in our surroundings. What’s involved is taking a mindful pause as we tune into the moment of now. Glimmers aren’t necessarily big experiences of joy but subtle tiny moments that help us conjure a sense of calm and serenity. We are able to bask in feelings and sensations that help our nervous system to operate in a state of balance. 

Understanding what glimmers are about is crucial. The idea is to recognise small positive moments repeatedly that eventually shapes our nervous system to safety and connection. Glimmers gently help us to rewire the mind, with the realisation that just as there are traumas, there are also moments of wellness. Because they often go unnoticed, setting an intention to find glimmers can be helpful! 

Examples of Glimmers 

Glimmers can be found in everyday life. Examples of glimmer moments are many. You can find them in

• listening to your favourite music over the radio
• feeling the sand on your feet while taking a walk on the beach
• basking in nature
• playing with your dog
• taking in the aroma of freshly baked bread.  
  

What’s important is tuning in, engaging your senses and embodying the experience – even if it is a tiny moment. 

My Glimmer Moment

Since I found out about what glimmers are, I started to notice them. However, there was one magical moment that stood out for me. It happened when I was in Bali. 

Even though it was a warm day, the lapping of small waves in the pool lent a cooling effect. All was quiet amidst the lush green surroundings. In that moment, stress completely vanished. Instead, I tapped into ease, relaxation and safety, and the sensing that my world is okay.  

I created a short video on what glimmers are. View the video on youtube shorts here! 

Find Your Glimmers

I’d like to invite you to find your glimmers today. What are moments that can help you regulate your nervous system with a sense of calm, safety and connection? 

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim

In the past, I would be extremely self-critical.

There are parts of myself that I would notice and that I wouldn’t be happy with. With age, I started to notice the wrinkles, grey hair and skin laxity too. At one stage, my weight kept increasing that showed up in an expanding waistline. Fortunately, I’ve come to understand that self-love starts with self-acceptance.

In a world that constantly bombards us with unrealistic beauty standards, it’s helpful to remember about what it means to accept ourselves despite any physical flaws.

I remind myself that it’s okay to be imperfectly perfect and that true beauty comes from within.

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.” Audrey Hepburn

Today, I’m celebrating myself as I am and I hope you do too.

Once again, if you are body shaming, stop. 

Join me in the journey of self-love, because you deserve to shine just as you are! 

And if you are needing to dive deeper into self-love, get my Self-Love Practice: How to Love, Heal and Reparent Your Inner Child on Amazon today! Alternatively, contact me for a discovery call if you’d like to work on loving and accepting yourself. 

Shine your brilliance always, 
Evelyn Lim