Make Money Online – EFT Tapping & Transformation Coach Singapore & Online https://www.evelynlim.com Tap into Transformation & Life Coaching Singapore Fri, 28 Jun 2024 03:58:30 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.9.4 https://www.evelynlim.com/wp-content/uploads/cropped-EvelynLim-Website-Logo-1-32x32.png Make Money Online – EFT Tapping & Transformation Coach Singapore & Online https://www.evelynlim.com 32 32 How to Solve the Root Cause of Your Money Story https://www.evelynlim.com/how-to-solve-the-root-cause-of-your-money-story/ https://www.evelynlim.com/how-to-solve-the-root-cause-of-your-money-story/#comments Fri, 28 Jun 2024 03:58:28 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=8786 Would you be interested in solving the root cause of your money story, so that you can start to manifest the life of abundance that you are dreaming of?

Your money story is the one you often tell to others. It is made up of the issues going on in your current financial situation, the persistent worry that you are experiencing or/and the complaints you have about the economy, property prices, cost of living and so on. It is a story that occupies your mind throughout the day.

As I have found, money stories often act as a smoke screen to deeper underlying issues. At first, it is easy to be mistaken into believing that your financial challenges are caused by a string of bad luck, the fault of the tax authorities, the constant unfair treatment by your employers, the failure of receiving payment on time, or the banks who are out to get you. This being the case, you try to remedy your challenges with band-aide or by rearranging certain aspects of your life.

iceberg theory

However, should you step aside for a bit, you may be able to observe money patterns that keep repeating. What you observe are likely to be debilitating cycles of frustration, worry, panic, resentment and anger over finances. Over and over again, you have not been able to truly break free.

Where there is a repeating pattern in your external issues, a root cause could exist internally. 

Feeling intrigued? Read on……

It is what lies below the surface of the iceberg (see above picture illustration) that influences your external actions, behaviour and attitude towards money. This is where the root cause of your money story can be found.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”What’s going on in the inside shows on the outside.” Earl Nightingale[/Tweet]

Here are some of the money stories that various clients reported to having:

– Not able to thrive or make enough in new vocation;
– Inability to have money breakthroughs;
– Stuck at a certain level of income;
– Not able to attract paying clients;
– No pay raise for the last 3 years;
– Not able to revise prices up;
– Deals keep falling through;
– Inability to pay bills;
– Over-extended on credit card;
– Kicked out of dwelling due to inability to pay rent;
– Cannot seem find a job that pays well;
– Living from month to month, and so on.

The problem is that the more you tell a story of lack, the more contractive you feel. What’s important to realise is that if you are hoping to change your situation (things on the outside), you need to start by first changing the energy you have on the inside. Your outer story reflects the inner beliefs that you have about money. In order to dissipate the contractive energy that you feel and believe about money, you will need to uncover the root cause of your troubles.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.” Bryant H. McGill[/Tweet]

How to Unravel the Mystery in the Root Cause 

The following are three steps:

(1) The first step involves awakening into awareness.

Many people do not realise that they have been directly a lot of negative emotional energy with their debilitating stories. Fear keeps them trapped. They are too preoccupied with worry to get clear in their thinking.

In order to break free, you will have shine light into the shadows.

From a non-attached conscious state, ask yourself: What is your true (inner) money story? What are the beliefs you have? Are these beliefs expansive or contractive?

In all likelihood, if you have made yourself out to be a victim and given the lack of money power over your happiness, your beliefs are limiting ones.

(2) The second step involves recalling your childhood stories, so that you can uncover the beliefs that you have formed.

What kind of role models did you grow up with?

Did your parents teach you how to master financial education?

What were some of the beliefs they brought you up with? How did your parents reward you for good behaviour or exam grades in school?

(3) The third step involves uncovering your birth story.

How was your birth like? Did your mother experience a “difficult labor” from giving birth to you? Is that why you view life as a struggle and being difficult?

Did you suffer any trauma when you were born?

Did your parents welcome you with open arms or did they withhold love from you because you are considered a burden?

Solve the Root Cause to Your Money Story

Could it be that behind your money story lies core unresolved issues?

Hidden in the labyrinth are your shadows: birth trauma, childhood memories and collective unconscious patterns.

Within the folds could lie your deepest fear, shame, anger, resentment and grief.

But yes, as I have discovered and many others too, it is possible to dive through the layers and to unravel some of the mystery.

During the internal process, you will realize that your relationship with money is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself and with all others.

{If you have a poor relationship with the self, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money. Likewise, if you have low self-love issues, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money.}

You clear the mystery through deep root healing of your wounded inner child and the energetic release of trauma from past events that have been keeping you stuck.

What is wonderful is that the more you align with the truth of your being, the greater your ability to attract the financial wealth that you deserve. Through financial alchemy, you transmute into the gold of your true being. Ultimately, you radiate in brilliance from the core of your soul.

Love and abundance always,

Evelyn Lim

Transformation Life Coach

P.S. Need personalised coaching on getting to the root cause of your emotional issues? Apply for a 30-min discovery session here. 

P.S.S. This post has been updated in 2024 to correct the links. 

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Why You May Want to Reconsider the Business Advice of “Charge What You Are Worth” https://www.evelynlim.com/reconsider-advice-of-charge-what-you-are-worth/ https://www.evelynlim.com/reconsider-advice-of-charge-what-you-are-worth/#respond Tue, 06 Jun 2023 05:51:32 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=21682 Many business coaches often have the advice of “charge what you are worth” when it comes to pricing your coaching services. Even though you could be in the midst of getting your business off the ground, they may still recommend that you charge high prices for your time. They assure you that you are worthy and deserving and that at the soul level, you are also of infinite worth. Hence, you are justified to raise your prices since you are “more than enough”.  

Admittedly, such advice can stoke anyone’s ego. And since they are your business coaches, you may decide to take their advice by charging a high hourly rate. Yet, in reality, this advice may not be helpful especially if you are not backed by adequate coaching experience or have not been able to generate enough business. 

Let’s examine what it means to “charge what you are worth”, so that we can make better sense of the advice. 

Evaluating “Charge What You Are Worth”

That you are worthy is, indeed, the divine truth. You are worthy of love, care and respect. Everyone is, no exceptions. 

However, in reality, pricing based on worth is a lot more tricky.

For a start, no one can pay you an infinite amount even though you are of infinite worth. I would think that it is impossible to put a price tag on someone’s worthiness. If you price your services at a higher rate, does it make you more worthy than your colleague? 

Also think about the scenario where your prices are on the higher end. You may end up working with fewer people or you risk pricing yourself out of the market. Additionally, to justify your high prices, you may have to hustle a lot more. In short, while you have a soul-level awareness of your infinite worth, pricing considerations have to be made differently here on Planet Earth. 

From what I see, “charge what you are worth” promotes the risk of cultivating an entitlement mindset. Having a sense of entitlement creates the expectation that you are deserving without necessarily putting in an equivalent amount of effort or work. Now, everyone knows that starting our own coaching business involves a learning curve and we get better with experience when handling more clients. Hence, having an entitlement mindset can set you back. It is possible that you may have to lower your prices if you have charged them too high too soon. 

On the contrary, I believe in applying authentic practices for our business. We do not make guarantees or promises that we can’t keep to our clients. Also, I’d like to propose that we make the distinction between having an entitlement mindset and a deep awareness that we are worthy and deserving. An entitled mindset is focused on what you believe that you are owed while an awareness that you are worthy is about recognising that you have inherent value without imposing on others. 

I recall a time when I had to respond to a business coach on how much I was charging. He had asked me pointedly in front of a group of coaches. When I shared what my hourly rate was, I could sense as if the whole room went into silence. My face burnt with embarrassment as I was shamed openly for not charging more. He made it seem that I had based my prices on a low perception of my own worth. 

Well, that business coach is no longer running his consulting business. When he pitched his upsell, no one bought his high-ticket program. He was a new business coach, and we weren’t sure about what more we could learn from him. 

I prefer a more realistic approach when it comes to pricing offers. Instead of following the advice of “charging what you are worth” blindly, I suggest doing some research. In other words, find out what the market is charging. I recommend charging a reasonable prices based on experience and skills and the niche you are in. You don’t want to underprice yourself either. 

Admittedly, since there is a range in prices that coaches can offer, you may still be unclear about what to charge. My proposal is sit quietly and check in physically while contemplating on the amount that you wish to charge. Make sure your pricing sits comfortably with you, not too low nor too high. You are able to pay for your expenses while doing the business that you love 🙂 

It is likely that if you charge a price lower than one based on “charge what you are worth”, more people will be able to take up your affordable services. Should you be hoping to gain experience from working with more clients, this is not a bad idea. After all, you have started your heart-centred business with the intent of making a difference. 

Just to add, I occasionally offer compassionate pricing in situations where I am aware that my clients are struggling financially or where they come from a developing country. It’s something worth considering if we are in a position and have the time to help another person. Some business coaches encourage their clients to borrow money to “invest” into their high-priced packages. While I believe in investing for personal growth, I prefer not to put my clients into huge debt just to pay for my coaching services. Hence, my reasons for charging a compassionate price is not based on a low perception of my own worth, so to speak. 

Indeed, the more people you can work with, the greater the difference you can create. Once you have built up your experience and have a waitlist of clients, you can gradually raise your prices. You will know it when the time comes! 

Much love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Business Alchemy Coach




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4 Money Healing Stories: Letting Go of the Past https://www.evelynlim.com/money-healing-stories/ https://www.evelynlim.com/money-healing-stories/#respond Fri, 28 Oct 2022 06:05:38 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=21500

Would you like to be inspired by money healing stories?

Well, I’d like to share some that belonged to my clients. I have had the privilege of helping them attain a mindset breakthrough that resulted in a change in their finances. For a long time, they were struggling with limiting beliefs that blocked the flow of money and their ability to generate better income. Most carried emotional money wounds that stemmed from the past. 

Their money healing stories are transformative. They had to confront their fears and release their attachment to beliefs formed since young. I’m thankful to my clients for giving me a firsthand chance to learn about how it is possible to rewrite our stories for healing and greater empowerment. To protect their privacy, I have used pen names for them. 

Money Healing Story #1: Breaking Free of Glass Income Ceiling

No matter how much effort she put in, Annie couldn’t seem to break through her glass income ceiling for her business. She’s constantly having money worries and that she’d never have enough. While we were working together, Annie experienced an “aha” moment. She suddenly realised how her unconscious limit in earnings came about.

Her dad had struggled to make a living when she was young. Unfortunately, Annie internalised some of the messages he had shared with her about his money troubles. During our session, she “saw” the amount that was written on the cheques he had been banking in from his job. To her surprise, it was the same amount that she has been earning for a long time from her business.

Annie worked on letting go of her glass ceiling. She gave herself the permission to make more than her dad. Annie no longer limits herself on what she can earn. As a result of her inner work, she has been generating income breakthroughs ever since. Annie found herself attracting bigger and bigger deals for her business. 

Money Healing Story #2: From Undeserving to Feeling Worthy

Belinda’s mum would constantly criticise her when she was young. Even though Belinda was born into a well-to-do family, her mum would make it seem that she did not deserve any of it. Her mum forbade her from playing from her friends and piled her with tasks and helping out in the family business. As a result, she spent all her time studying and working.

Today, as an adult, Belinda has been struggling with believing that she is deserving of love and money and also, worthy of receiving. None of her money-making ideas has taken off. She often felt guilty if she did not help out in her family business and would prioritise the needs of others before hers. 

Belinda worked on healing some of her money wounds, and changing her beliefs to affirming that she is deserving. Her confidence improved tremendously, as a result. She has also given herself the permission to feel safe about taking a break and changing how she views work. Belinda has also learnt to prioritise self-love and care. 

Money Healing Story #3: Mending Her Money Wounds 

Chelsea has a mum who used to demand money from her ever since she started work at 14 years old. At one stage, she had to juggle 3 part-time jobs, so that she can help supplement her family’s income. Even then, her mum would constantly undermining her confidence. Unable to concentrate, her school grades suffered badly.

As soon as Chelsea reached adulthood, she moved out from home to get away from the toxic environment. However, due to her poor grades, she had to start work from the bottom. Life was hard but she managed to persevere.

Still, Chelsea was aware that she could do with much less struggle. It’s how she ended up with doing inner work to heal her deep money wounds. She has come a long way in gaining a greater sense of financial well-being.

Money Healing Story #4: Overcoming the Fear and Anxiety of Not Having Enough 

Daisy had found her insecurities with money to be debilitating. When she was young, her parents had to rely on government handouts. Her parents just could not take up financial responsibility and were not able to manage their expenses properly. They had constant fights about money and Daisy lived in persistent fear of not having enough to survive throughout her childhood.

Even though the circumstances today had changed tremendously for Daisy, she continued to live in the constant worry that she will not have enough. She had been fearful that her money would run out and would pick fights with her husband. 

Through our sessions, Daisy worked on calming her nervous system so that she can find safety and calm. Also, she worked on tapping into her worthiness. She is now on the way to levelling up her business from “just getting by” and holding space for more clients.

Money Healing: Stop the Financial Bleeding

Hope the stories inspire you to make a shift in your financial well-being.

Need some healing work to be done? 

If your issues stem from the past, look into healing your money wounds.  In fact, the quicker you stop the emotional bleeding, the better it is. You are investing in your financial well-being that compounds from now on. 

To find out more about working together, apply for a discovery call with me. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Coach

Money Relationship Mentor
Accredited EFT Practitioner 

Other Money Healing Stories

1. How Kay Cleared Her Money Blocks

2. How Amy Overcame Her Money Struggles

3. The Limiting Money Blocks that Nellie Cleared for Client Attraction

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10 Tips for Conscious Reparenting of Your Inner Child https://www.evelynlim.com/10-tips-for-conscious-reparenting/ https://www.evelynlim.com/10-tips-for-conscious-reparenting/#respond Sat, 13 Aug 2022 05:57:37 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=21382 Do you often wish that you had received adequate love, guidance, support from your mum or dad when you were young?

It could be that you’re now realising that part of the challenging issues you have today are related to your childhood. Perhaps you have experienced emotional neglect in the past. You find yourself still longing for love and assurance even today.

This is not to blame any of your parents. After all, they parented you in the only way they knew how. They could have been brought up in the same or similar ways themselves. Yet, what remains is that your younger self or inner child still feels the need to have that love and acceptance. 

Well, it is not too late. You can help yourself by addressing these needs in the now. Addressing unresolved needs helps you to build emotional resilience, strengthen self-confidence and esteem, and to undertake personal responsibility.

With all that you know now, with the higher consciousness that you are, you can offer parenting love, warmth and guidance to your inner child. 

I’d like to share 10 tips on  how you can connect with your inner child as a loving conscious parent. Don’t miss out on any tip as it may just create the positive difference that you need in your life right now! 

10 Tips for Connecting with Your Inner Child as a Conscious Parent 

The 10 tips are as follows…

1 Acknowledge your inner child’s feelings.
2 Attend to your inner child’s needs for safety and assurance. 
3 Guide your inner child in setting healthy boundaries. 
4 Give your inner child the permission to have fun.
5 Let your inner child know that it is okay to be curious and explore. 
6 Celebrate her success, wins, progress and accomplishments. 
7 Embrace your inner child even with her imperfections, mistakes and flaws. 
8 Guide her in developing positive habits. 
9 Give your inner child plenty of encouragement. 
10. Commit to being there for your inner child with presence.

Step into Self-Love and Be the Loving Consciousness that You Are

Just because you connect with your inner child doesn’t mean that you get stuck in the past. I get it…no one likes to be drag up issues from long time ago. You already know that you need to move on. 

However, you are likely to find that by addressing the unresolved needs of your inner child, you are actually practising self-love and increasing your ability to accept, let go and get on with your life. 

As mentioned, conscious reparenting leads you to experiencing greater confidence and the freedom to take charge of your life from now on.

If you would like to learn more, check out my starter course on how to reparent yourself

I apply a signature system to help those who are interested in healing their inner child with love and conscious reparenting. If you are needing further assistance and would like to find out about working together, do reach out to me by applying for a discovery call

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Conscious Reparenting Coach for Women 
Self-Love Healing Therapist 


 

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How You Can Communicate with Money through S.P.A.R.K. https://www.evelynlim.com/communicate-with-money-spark/ https://www.evelynlim.com/communicate-with-money-spark/#respond Sat, 02 Apr 2022 09:31:11 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=21145 Just imagine money as a partner for life.

In order to build the best relationship with it, learning to “communicate” with it can be helpful. Ultimately, we are able to receive a better response from our partner. Conversely, when we are not in sync, our ability to relate to each other goes down. 

After reviewing what I had learned from my 20 years of marriage, I came up with 5 ways on how best to cultivate communication in a couple relationship. When I put the 5 ways together, I found out that it fitted nicely with a SPARK acronym 🙂

On a wave of inspiration, I extended its application to working with our relationship with money

The Chicken And Duck Problem in Communication 

Ever heard of the Chinese idiom about getting a chicken and duck to talk to each other?

The Chinese idiom literally means two persons having difficulty communicating with each other, as if they are speaking different languages. 

I often felt that way when I was communicating with my husband. Arguments would start when we couldn’t seem to get through to each other. At first, my response strategy was to avoid whenever the communication got too difficult. However, I soon realised that it was necessary to talk things over so that misunderstandings can be cleared up. 

Keeping communication lines open between my husband and I gave us the chance to work through our conflicts. Where I once preferred to flee from difficult conversations, I have since learned to stay the course. These days, I’m learning to practice more empathetic listening, patience and respond more wisely. I’m also working on articulating my needs and to be more present to his. Even with the tiny improvements made, I can already see how things have improved between us. 

What Does S.P.A.R.K. mean

Admittedly, S.P.A.R.K while simple to understand, takes some effort to apply.

Indeed, the steps may seem obvious when we are trying to relate to a person but we can certainly apply the same steps for building a better relationship with money.

The process involves thinking of money as a “lover” or friend whom we are interested to deepen our connection with. When we are better attuned, our relationship with money naturally improves. Feeing nurtured and supported, we find ourselves becoming more productive, energised and resilient. All these help us to attract more clients, business and work opportunities. We are also better able to show up for our families, work and/or business.

S.P.A.R.K. essentially comprises of 
S=Sort Things Out
P=Pause & Be Present
A=Affirm Positively
R=Raise Your Game
K=Keep Thanking.

Applying S.P.A.R.K. in How You Can Communicate with Money

Here’s a brief explanation 

S=Sort Things Out. Work on conflict resolution. Change your thoughts and feelings towards money.

P=Pause & Be Present. Be present. Apply ABC which stands for Always Be Connecting. Set healthy money dates.

A=Affirm Positively. Affirm positive beliefs about money, your confidence and relationship with it.

R=Raise Your Game. Money loves growth. Invest in money workshops. Speak finances and money lingo. Work on growing money, increasing sources of income and your money mindset.

K=Keep Thanking. Avoid taking things for granted. Adopt gratitude for the role of money in your life.

The Art of Money Communication

I wouldn’t have made it to celebrating 20 years of married life to the same guy if I hadn’t worked hard in improving my communication with him. We’ve learned the importance of connection, support and growth in our relationship. As we’ve discovered, it is an ongoing process and it can be an art in communicating with money sometimes. 

Similarly, to have a great relationship with money requires constant tending to. However, most people neglect their money relationship. It could be due to fear or some limiting beliefs in the way. It is best that we avoid tending to this as last in our priority, if we are interested to thrive financially in the world. Money is after all, something that we have to handle till the day we die. Hence, learning to better communicate with it is vital! 

Not forgetting, money loves compounding! Incremental improvements can go a long way. Thus, the earlier we make healthy money dates and learn to better speak the language of money, the more investment pay-offs we reap!

For more on S.P.A.R.K., check out the Relationship with Money course here. There are more examples and worksheets that you can download to work on improving the art of money communication. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Money Relationship Mentor 
Financial Therapist 

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Tapping for Your Business: From Disconnection to Authentic Marketing with Ease (Video) https://www.evelynlim.com/tapping-for-business-authentic-marketing/ https://www.evelynlim.com/tapping-for-business-authentic-marketing/#respond Sat, 06 Nov 2021 03:48:10 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=20414 Dear Solopreneur, 

Are you hoping to attract more clients but feel as if you need to use marketing methods that are based on high-pressure, FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) and manipulation, and you are feeling disconnected because of this? 

Recently, I came across this post by someone who shared what was it like for her…

“I have to behave, talk and present in a specific way to attract paying clients. My business coach taught me how to do this in her way and that is pretty much based on using fear and pressure. But I am feeling disconnected because of this. It’s not me. A part of me just wants to be who I am. But what if showing up in my own ways is going to hurt my business?”

If this is similar to what is going on for you too, let’s work on releasing any sense of disconnection or stress. Tap along with me with the video below.

EFT Tapping for Business: Authentic Marketing with Ease

It is safe to be who you are. You can make the choice to show up in a way that feels balanced, authentic and also professional. Find the magic spot that illuminates your best self!

Market your offers from a place of alignment, ease and authenticity! 

For more and if you’d like to join me “live”, sign up for the Tapping Circle for Women Solopreneurs held this month. 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Coach for Women Solopreneurs 


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Improve Your Relationship with Money: From Dating to Developing Intimacy https://www.evelynlim.com/improve-relationship-money-dating-developing-intimacy/ https://www.evelynlim.com/improve-relationship-money-dating-developing-intimacy/#comments Wed, 11 Aug 2021 11:56:20 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=13074 How do you begin to improve your relationship with money? In this updated post,  I’d like to share a way that is easy to understand and relate to. This update also covers one of the topics that I am teaching in my Relationship with Money Course.  What can be helpful is to think of a romantic relationship. And in every romantic relationship, there are stages. So, consider the different phases that a romantic relationship will go through; that is from dating to developing love and true intimacy. Next, draw on the understanding to apply it in the context of your relationship with money.

As you begin, here are 3 important reminders:

1. You already have an existing relationship with money, whether you have been previously aware of it or not.

2. You can’t exactly “divorce” money. You need to accept money, being a medium of exchange, as part of your life.

3. You will have to make it work somehow.

How to improve your relationship with money from dating to developing intimacy

Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Dating Phase

Remember how exciting it can be when you are in the dating phase of a relationship?

Well, this is the phase when you are eager to find out more about the other party. You hope to get to know what your partner is like? What are his/her interests? How do you attract him/her into your life?

So, begin to date money. Go on long walks. It is when you start to ask fundamental questions:- Who or what is this money energy?- What is the cause of your sleepless nights?- Who is this that leaves you hankering for more when its absence is felt?- Why do you need money?

In other words, dedicate this phase to learning about what money is, how the Universe works and the Law of Attraction.

Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Doubt Phase

Somewhere along the way, doubts start to creep in.

From previous experiences, you begin to doubt if committing to more dates is ever going to work. You have not had a successful relationship with it before. Think about all the disappointments! How is it going to be different this time?

The opposite of doubt is trust. Trust means that you give yourself the permission to pursue an understanding of money. You trust that an understanding of money does not necessarily lead to an obsession of it. You can choose to take charge! It’s what you want. You want to improve your relationship with money. And so, you are willing to give a healthy and balanced attention to money, including your attitude towards it.

Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Struggle Phase

Both the doubt and struggle phases usually occur quickly after the blissful courtship period. The honeymoon period is clearly over! You are questioning more. This is when you start to confront each other about your differences.

Ironing out conflicts is key during this period.

What are your beliefs that are not congruent if you are hoping to attract money?What is the money story that you are telling?Is fear ruining your relationship?

This is the phase that calls for letting go of your fears and bringing more unconditional love in! If you have been mistaken before, you get to work on resolving conflicts. You clear your negative emotions and remove your limiting beliefs around it. You come to terms with it. You shift into better-feeling thoughts.

“Love is a verb. It’s an action requiring your involvement and your active participation. You cannot sit back and expect the world will serve it to you. You cannot expect that your relationship will continue to provide love while you’re not putting in any effort. Love has to be earned and must be continually fought for.” Stephen Covey

Improve Your Relationship with Money: The Commitment & Intimacy Phase

What is it like to be in a committed relationship?

This phase may appear to be boring. It is when things get repetitious and practical. It is when you dive into details.

The commitment phase includes learning how to manage money. It involves matters such as savings, investing, budgeting and so on. It means having to study and finding better ways to grow your wealth. You may also be consulting expert advice.

This phase is not necessarily dull when you start to reap rewards. You are developing true intimacy. You are learning how to manage your emotional reactions to money. With improved communication, you now speak the language of money. There is ease and confidence in the relationship. It is how you are able to raise the vibration of your relationship with money. It is bringing you plenty of wedded bliss! You are attracting more and more money energy love!!

Make Money A Loving Friend

True love is about growing as a couple, learning about each other and never giving up on each other.

It’s the same when it comes to working on  improving your relationship with money. Develop greater understanding as you go through the different phases from dating to developing intimacy. As it is often said, Energy flows where focused attention goes. When you give a balanced attention to money, it naturally flows into your life.

improve relationship with money

It is up to you to create the relationship that you want. Be a great friend or partner and stand to profit from the healthy partnership you have with money! If you want to attract more money, improving your relationship with money is clearly a must.For next steps, get my starter course to work on improving your relationship with moneyTransform Relationship with Money Course Banner

Love and Abundance Always,

Evelyn Lim

Abundance Life Coach for Women

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3 Lessons of 2020 https://www.evelynlim.com/3-lessons-of-2020/ https://www.evelynlim.com/3-lessons-of-2020/#respond Mon, 28 Dec 2020 04:34:43 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=19270 2020 has been a difficult year for most. Against the backdrop of confusion, chaos and challenges, I reviewed the happenings that took place, in order to redesign plans for a new year ahead.

As 2020 comes to an end, I’d like to invite you to do the following too…
What’s your review for 2020 like?
What were your 3 most important lessons learnt?
How can you pivot your life and business for a stronger 2021 ahead?



May 2021 be a better year for you. 

To your success, health and happiness! 
Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim

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How to Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online https://www.evelynlim.com/how-to-beat-the-fear-of-being-visible-online/ https://www.evelynlim.com/how-to-beat-the-fear-of-being-visible-online/#respond Sat, 17 Oct 2020 08:14:03 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=19172 Struggling with the fear of being visible online? 

If you run a coaching, energy healing or solopreneur business, you cannot neglect or ignore being visible online. 

And if you are an introvert and have the tendency to hide, this post is meant specially for you!

Specifically, the fear of being visible can be about

  • the fear of being seen online,
  • the fear of feeling exposed,
  • feeling vulnerable,
  • imposter syndrome or feeling like a “fraud”,
  • fear of success,
  • fear of being ridiculed in public,
  • fear of not being accepted for your views, 
    and so on.

If you have the fear of being visible online, it can impact you on the business front in the following ways….

  • can’t show up on videos,
  • can’t confidently market your products and services,
  • can’t network and build a group of business associates and friends online,
  • avoid giving interviews,
  • stops you from achieving better success in your marketing activities,
  • can’t conduct online classes or webinar trainings,
  • can’t ask to be paid for your services,
  • set low prices for your products and services etc.

Overall, the fear of being visible online stops you from being more successful in your business. This has an impact on your bottom line! 

Here’s a fact that you can’t run away from:

If you want 24/7 consistent free traffic and for your marketing activities to be effective, you will need to do video marketing.

Which just means that you need to be visible online.

Why You Need to Do Video Marketing

Showing up on video allows you to create and share valuable content with your audience in a way that plain text will never match.

Here are some stats that you need to be aware of….

 Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online - Video Marketing Stats

Get the picture after having an idea about what being visible can do for you?

If you don’t do video marketing, you are at a severe disadvantage.

Indeed, people buy based on emotional connection.

By showing up on video, you are better able to create trust and connection with your audience. Video marketing simply helps you create visibility that will assist you with generating leads and gaining clients.

My Story of the Fear of Being Visible Online

As an introvert, I used to struggle with showing my face online. I felt self-conscious and vulnerable, as if everyone will get to finally see the real me and not like what they see. And so, I used being “an introvert” and that it is not my personality, as the perfect excuse for not showing up. 

I recall the times when I almost threw up, felt faint and going through severe nervous tension just at the thought of needing to be visible. It was that bad for me. I was totally resistant to being visible online!

Later, I discovered that my excuses were not helping me to reach out to more people. In fact, I found out that becoming visible was more a matter of boosting confidence than anything else. It’s still possible to be an introvert and show up on videos, in other words! Fast forward till today, I have been able to show up with more ease and confidence! 

3 Tips on How You Can Beat the Fear of Being Visible Online

If you are held back from achieving your goals by your fear of being visible, I’d like to share with you 3 tips that you can apply…

(1) Start small by being visible online to a small audience.

You can change your settings on your FB profile, youtube or instagram to just private or a small group of friends. Or you can also set up a small facebook group and post your videos there. Alternatively, you can find facebook groups where you can feel safe to create posts. Gradually work up your confidence to showing up and being more visible online!

(2) Repeat some positive affirmations.

Give yourself a positive boost with using affirmations that are going to support you. For example, you can use the following…
– I am open to being seen and heard online.
– I am a powerful communicator.
– I choose to feel safe to be visible online.

(3) Boost Your Confidence.

Let’s face it. Without confidence, it is going to hamper your ability to be more productive and effective in your social media activities. Hence, you need to start with working on yourself. It’s about transforming from the inside-out.

Very importantly, you don’t just want confidence to be based on external factors but I recommend that you want to build Authentic Confidence, showing up as your true self, without any false pretences. Authentic Confidence boosts your ability to generate Cash Flow!

Take Action Right Away with Beating The Fear of Being Visible Online

My course, Authentic Confidence Mastery, is designed to help you create self awareness, align with what you want and to release your fears that are in the way.

It is an invitation to give yourself the permission to shine!

Gain access and start to boost your confidence here>>>

See you on the inside,

Mindset, Marketing & Manifesting Abundance Coach

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What the 5 Signs of Having Mindset Blocks are https://www.evelynlim.com/what-are-the-5-signs-of-having-mindset-blocks/ https://www.evelynlim.com/what-are-the-5-signs-of-having-mindset-blocks/#respond Mon, 31 Aug 2020 08:22:35 +0000 https://www.evelynlim.com/?p=19059 What happens if you don’t even know you have mindset blocks?

What are the signs?

To begin with, why is even important to identify whether you have mindset blocks or not?

Well, for a start,  mindset blocks can keep you stuck or struggling more than you need to. It obstructs your success. A mindset block arises when you have the story of “I want to achieve this goal or dream but (the reason)”. You may even have more than one “but” on why you can’t achieve what you want.

Invariably, the reason behind the “but” stems from a limiting belief. Your “but this” or “but that” are actually excuses. Excuses are a form of self-sabotage. 

Conversely, if there is nothing in the way, you would be getting a lot more success. There are no “buts” to achieving what you want. You are clear, focused and decisive. 

Time is a precious resource and you want to achieve success sooner than later. And if you are someone in business, having mindset challenges can impact your ability to generate income easily.

Clearly, it doesn’t help to be in denial or to avoid the topic of mindset block altogether.

If you want to improve cash flow,
if you want to generate better success,
if you want to shift to the next level,

learn to recognise the signs.

5 signs that you could be having a mindset block

Listen in to this video about what the signs of having mindset blocks are. Or read on…..

  1. You are stuck.

You keep going round and round in circles. Feeling stuck. Distracted with what other coaches or what other people are doing. It is possible that you’ve already attended courses and training classes for your business, but you are still not able to put out your offers.

You have plenty of reasons why you can’t get going. Not able to start a business. Not able to launch. Not able to do what’s needed. So this is not a problem of strategy or know-how but a pure mindset issue.

  1. Not enough Cash Flow.

Cash flow is an important indicator that you cannot ignore.

You may have been on this business for some months or years, but are you generating enough cash flow to cover minimally your expenses?

If you are not generating enough, it can be either a mindset issue or strategy issue or both. Chances are, it is a combination.

  1. You don’t like being visible.

The thought of being visible may make you feel ill, exposed, or naked. You have this fear about the loss in privacy where you simply do not like the idea of people checking up on you online.  Or you may fear that you’d be criticised or attacked for the messages that you share.

As you are offering a service, it helps for your audience to know who you are. You do it best by showing up on video. Hence, it is imperative that you work through your discomfort. Release your mindset issues around visibility with EFT tapping. 

Your business depends on you showing up. Showing up on video also takes practice. Practice in front of the mirror. Work on your script or what you want to say. Once you’ve released your emotional and mindset blocks, you’d be more ready to practice and to post your videos.

  1. You can’t ask for the money

You find it difficult to ask for the money and you have tremendous anxiety on talking about your prices. When it comes to doing discovery or sales calls, you may feel guilty, shameful, embarrassed, not good enough, and so on. All these disruptions are indications that you are having mindset problems.

You need to work through this. If you don’t ask for the money or you have tremendous fears around this, you won’t be able to generate the income that you want.

  1. You are Unable to Shift to the Next Level

You have gotten your initial success and at first,, you were feeling elated. But somehow, after the first breakthrough, you’ve been stuck. And you can’t seem to shatter the next ceiling that has come up.

It could be that you are stuck at a certain income range. Or that you are getting into overwhelm. Or that you have fears around setting higher expectations. Not being able to shift to your next level could potentially be a mindset issue.

Release Mindset Blocks That Are in the Way of Your Success 

Addressing mindset blocks is non-negotiable if you want to be successful. What’s great is that when you transform from the inside, there is a ripple effect that potentially affect all areas of your life. You grow in confidence, self-esteem and wellness. This has a positive impact on your business.

So, begin by staying alert to whether or not you are having signs of mindset blocks. Set yourself up for true success with awareness and action! 

Reach out to me if you’d like to work on releasing mindset blocks. I specialise in helping women entrepreneurs clear their limiting beliefs at the subconscious and at root cause, so that they can live and create the life of abundance that they desire. Apply for a discovery call here >>>

To your success!

Love and abundance always,
Evelyn Lim

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