Your money story is the one you often tell to others. It is made up of the issues going on in your current financial situation, the persistent worry that you are experiencing or/and the complaints you have about the economy, property prices, cost of living and so on. It is a story that occupies your mind throughout the day.

As I have found, money stories often act as a smoke screen to deeper underlying issues. At first, it is easy to be mistaken into believing that your financial challenges are caused by a string of bad luck, the fault of the tax authorities, the constant unfair treatment by your employers, the failure of receiving payment on time, or the banks who are out to get you. This being the case, you try to remedy your challenges with band-aide or by rearranging certain aspects of your life.

However, should you step aside for a bit, you may be able to observe money patterns that keep repeating. What you observe are likely to be debilitating cycles of frustration, worry, panic, resentment and anger over finances. Over and over again, you have not been able to truly break free.

Where there is a repeating pattern in your external issues, a root cause could exist internally. 

Feeling intrigued? Read on……

It is what lies below the surface of the iceberg (see above picture illustration) that influences your external actions, behaviour and attitude towards money. This is where the root cause of your money story can be found.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”What’s going on in the inside shows on the outside.” Earl Nightingale[/Tweet]

Here are some of the money stories that various clients reported to having:

– Not able to thrive or make enough in new vocation;
– Inability to have money breakthroughs;
– Stuck at a certain level of income;
– Not able to attract paying clients;
– No pay raise for the last 3 years;
– Not able to revise prices up;
– Deals keep falling through;
– Inability to pay bills;
– Over-extended on credit card;
– Kicked out of dwelling due to inability to pay rent;
– Cannot seem find a job that pays well;
– Living from month to month, and so on.

The problem is that the more you tell a story of lack, the more contractive you feel. What’s important to realise is that if you are hoping to change your situation (things on the outside), you need to start by first changing the energy you have on the inside. Your outer story reflects the inner beliefs that you have about money. In order to dissipate the contractive energy that you feel and believe about money, you will need to uncover the root cause of your troubles.

[Tweet theme=”basic-white”]”The conflicts we have with the outside world are often conflicts we have within ourselves.” Bryant H. McGill[/Tweet]

How to Unravel the Mystery in the Root Cause 

The following are three steps:

(1) The first step involves awakening into awareness.

Many people do not realise that they have been directly a lot of negative emotional energy with their debilitating stories. Fear keeps them trapped. They are too preoccupied with worry to get clear in their thinking.

In order to break free, you will have shine light into the shadows.

From a non-attached conscious state, ask yourself: What is your true (inner) money story? What are the beliefs you have? Are these beliefs expansive or contractive?

In all likelihood, if you have made yourself out to be a victim and given the lack of money power over your happiness, your beliefs are limiting ones.

(2) The second step involves recalling your childhood stories, so that you can uncover the beliefs that you have formed.

What kind of role models did you grow up with?

Did your parents teach you how to master financial education?

What were some of the beliefs they brought you up with? How did your parents reward you for good behaviour or exam grades in school?

(3) The third step involves uncovering your birth story.

How was your birth like? Did your mother experience a “difficult labor” from giving birth to you? Is that why you view life as a struggle and being difficult?

Did you suffer any trauma when you were born?

Did your parents welcome you with open arms or did they withhold love from you because you are considered a burden?

Solve the Root Cause to Your Money Story

Could it be that behind your money story lies core unresolved issues?

Hidden in the labyrinth are your shadows: birth trauma, childhood memories and collective unconscious patterns.

Within the folds could lie your deepest fear, shame, anger, resentment and grief.

But yes, as I have discovered and many others too, it is possible to dive through the layers and to unravel some of the mystery.

During the internal process, you will realize that your relationship with money is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself and with all others.

{If you have a poor relationship with the self, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money. Likewise, if you have low self-love issues, you are likely to have a poor relationship with money.}

You clear the mystery through deep root healing of your wounded inner child and the energetic release of trauma from past events that have been keeping you stuck.

What is wonderful is that the more you align with the truth of your being, the greater your ability to attract the financial wealth that you deserve. Through financial alchemy, you transmute into the gold of your true being. Ultimately, you radiate in brilliance from the core of your soul.

Love and abundance always,

Evelyn Lim

Transformation Life Coach

P.S. Need personalised coaching on getting to the root cause of your emotional issues? Apply for a 30-min discovery session here. 

P.S.S. This post has been updated in 2024 to correct the links. 

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Admittedly, such advice can stoke anyone’s ego. And since they are your business coaches, you may decide to take their advice by charging a high hourly rate. Yet, in reality, this advice may not be helpful especially if you are not backed by adequate coaching experience or have not been able to generate enough business. 

Let’s examine what it means to “charge what you are worth”, so that we can make better sense of the advice. 

Evaluating “Charge What You Are Worth”

That you are worthy is, indeed, the divine truth. You are worthy of love, care and respect. Everyone is, no exceptions. 

However, in reality, pricing based on worth is a lot more tricky.

For a start, no one can pay you an infinite amount even though you are of infinite worth. I would think that it is impossible to put a price tag on someone’s worthiness. If you price your services at a higher rate, does it make you more worthy than your colleague? 

Also think about the scenario where your prices are on the higher end. You may end up working with fewer people or you risk pricing yourself out of the market. Additionally, to justify your high prices, you may have to hustle a lot more. In short, while you have a soul-level awareness of your infinite worth, pricing considerations have to be made differently here on Planet Earth. 

From what I see, “charge what you are worth” promotes the risk of cultivating an entitlement mindset. Having a sense of entitlement creates the expectation that you are deserving without necessarily putting in an equivalent amount of effort or work. Now, everyone knows that starting our own coaching business involves a learning curve and we get better with experience when handling more clients. Hence, having an entitlement mindset can set you back. It is possible that you may have to lower your prices if you have charged them too high too soon. 

On the contrary, I believe in applying authentic practices for our business. We do not make guarantees or promises that we can’t keep to our clients. Also, I’d like to propose that we make the distinction between having an entitlement mindset and a deep awareness that we are worthy and deserving. An entitled mindset is focused on what you believe that you are owed while an awareness that you are worthy is about recognising that you have inherent value without imposing on others. 

I recall a time when I had to respond to a business coach on how much I was charging. He had asked me pointedly in front of a group of coaches. When I shared what my hourly rate was, I could sense as if the whole room went into silence. My face burnt with embarrassment as I was shamed openly for not charging more. He made it seem that I had based my prices on a low perception of my own worth. 

Well, that business coach is no longer running his consulting business. When he pitched his upsell, no one bought his high-ticket program. He was a new business coach, and we weren’t sure about what more we could learn from him. 

I prefer a more realistic approach when it comes to pricing offers. Instead of following the advice of “charging what you are worth” blindly, I suggest doing some research. In other words, find out what the market is charging. I recommend charging a reasonable prices based on experience and skills and the niche you are in. You don’t want to underprice yourself either. 

Admittedly, since there is a range in prices that coaches can offer, you may still be unclear about what to charge. My proposal is sit quietly and check in physically while contemplating on the amount that you wish to charge. Make sure your pricing sits comfortably with you, not too low nor too high. You are able to pay for your expenses while doing the business that you love 🙂 

It is likely that if you charge a price lower than one based on “charge what you are worth”, more people will be able to take up your affordable services. Should you be hoping to gain experience from working with more clients, this is not a bad idea. After all, you have started your heart-centred business with the intent of making a difference. 

Just to add, I occasionally offer compassionate pricing in situations where I am aware that my clients are struggling financially or where they come from a developing country. It’s something worth considering if we are in a position and have the time to help another person. Some business coaches encourage their clients to borrow money to “invest” into their high-priced packages. While I believe in investing for personal growth, I prefer not to put my clients into huge debt just to pay for my coaching services. Hence, my reasons for charging a compassionate price is not based on a low perception of my own worth, so to speak. 

Indeed, the more people you can work with, the greater the difference you can create. Once you have built up your experience and have a waitlist of clients, you can gradually raise your prices. You will know it when the time comes! 

Much love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim
Business Alchemy Coach

You may be praying for some signs from heaven but you’ve barely heard a squawk. Perhaps you’ve secretly been hoping for some iron-clad assurance that will allay your fears of making a mistake or going down the wrong path but that would be wishful thinking! 

Alas, it doesn’t work that way. I’ve been in the same shoes and what I’ve discovered is this: you can wait for assurance but so long as you don’t trust or believe, the dream that you want to see happen will not take place. Nothing would have moved or changed very much. 

Instead, the Universe is saying, trust first with aligned actions and the manifestation will follow. 

Message from the Universe about Manifestation

There has to be trust. 

With trust, you commit by taking the first few steps. 

If you are wondering if you should change careers, it may be that you need to attend a workshop to acquire new skills for a start. 

If you are wondering if your business idea is going to work, it may be that you need to do some sample testing first. 

If you are wondering if you should publish a book, you may start by writing a few lines of content. It’s exactly what I went through. I was going back and forth in my mind, “should I” and “should I not”. Until I made up my mind by taking a few steps by writing an outline. 

The Universe wants to know that you are committed. It can only know this when you invest your energy through actions. Your actions need to be aligned with your goal or vision. The trust that you have comes from a deep inner knowing that you will always be supported, no matter what. In fact, the more massive the actions you take, the more feedback that you’d receive from the Universe. 

And so, you may ask, “wouldn’t taking actions seem self-fulfilling?”

In a way, yes! 

However, what often follows is a series of synchronistic events, great opportunities and amazing resources that the universe sends to you in a manner that is magical! 

So, say “yes” to receiving them all!

And if things are not turning out well after you’ve taken some steps, simply trust that there will be growth or that you’d acquire new lessons in the process. 

Trust first and the manifestation will follow!

Love and Abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim 
Alchemy Life Coaching
P.S. Encountering blocks to manifesting your goals or dream? Find out more about working together by applying for a discovery call with me. Click here! 

Most people are deeply scripted in what I call the Scarcity Mentality. They see life as having only so much, as though there were only one pie out there. And if someone were to get a big piece of the pie, it would mean less for everybody else.

The Scarcity Mentality is the zero-sum paradigm of life. People with a Scarcity Mentality have a very difficult time sharing recognition and credit, power or profit – even with those who help in the production. The also have a a very hard time being genuinely happy for the success of other people.

Stephen Covey describes Abundance Mindset as…

The Abundance Mentality, on the other hand, flows out of a deep inner sense of personal worth and security. It is the paradigm that there is plenty out there and enough to spare for everybody. It results in sharing of prestige, of recognition, of profits, of decision making. It opens possibilities, options, alternatives, and creativity.

How You Can Make the Shift from Scarcity to an Abundance Mindset

Interested to work on making a shift?

Refer to the following table that summarises what Stephen Covey has to say about shifting from a scarcity to an abundance mindset….

From the table, make a tick on the ones that you feel represents where you are. Thereafter, decide which item you want to be working on for making a shift and how you would like to go about it. You may decide to apply it in the context of your business, in personal finance or just in general. 

For example, instead of thinking small and avoiding risk, you may decide to stop playing safe and be open to putting yourself out there and to sharing your big vision. Or, instead of focusing on cost control for personal finance, you may choose to explore how you can employ leverage to grow your investments. 

How I’m Making the Shift from a Scarcity into an Abundance Mindset for My Business 

May I share how I’ve been applying the shift in the context of my business.

Over the years, I have been working on letting go of my scarcity mindset.  I found out how limiting beliefs were driving the way I was showing up in my business. It wasn’t great that I had unconsciously picked up scarcity thinking from “marketing experts” and I needed to change this.

These days, I remind myself about coming from a space of love and abundance whether I am serving clients or doing marketing. It just doesn’t feel right to be coming from love when I work with clients but when it is time for marketing activities, I use fear-based methods. I’m now leaning into greater authenticity when promoting my offers and I am feeling happier and aligned 🙂 

The following is how making the shift is looking like….

Additional 4 tips to make the shift from a scarcity to an abundance mindset

1. Surround yourself with people with generous and abundance mindset. 

2. Practice daily gratitude. 

3. Use creative visualisation to envision possibility. 

4. Connect with nature to infuse expansiveness and abundance. 

Hope the above tips help! 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Abundance Coach
Online Content Creator

P.S. Article is updated in Jan 2023 for improved flow. 
 

Would you like to be inspired by money healing stories?

Well, I’d like to share some that belonged to my clients. I have had the privilege of helping them attain a mindset breakthrough that resulted in a change in their finances. For a long time, they were struggling with limiting beliefs that blocked the flow of money and their ability to generate better income. Most carried emotional money wounds that stemmed from the past. 

Their money healing stories are transformative. They had to confront their fears and release their attachment to beliefs formed since young. I’m thankful to my clients for giving me a firsthand chance to learn about how it is possible to rewrite our stories for healing and greater empowerment. To protect their privacy, I have used pen names for them. 

Belinda’s mum would constantly criticise her when she was young. Even though Belinda was born into a well-to-do family, her mum would make it seem that she did not deserve any of it. Her mum forbade her from playing from her friends and piled her with tasks and helping out in the family business. As a result, she spent all her time studying and working.

Today, as an adult, Belinda has been struggling with believing that she is deserving of love and money and also, worthy of receiving. None of her money-making ideas has taken off. She often felt guilty if she did not help out in her family business and would prioritise the needs of others before hers. 

Belinda worked on healing some of her money wounds, and changing her beliefs to affirming that she is deserving. Her confidence improved tremendously, as a result. She has also given herself the permission to feel safe about taking a break and changing how she views work. Belinda has also learnt to prioritise self-love and care. 

Money Healing: Stop the Financial Bleeding

It could be that you’re now realising that part of the challenging issues you have today are related to your childhood. Perhaps you have experienced emotional neglect in the past. You find yourself still longing for love and assurance even today.

This is not to blame any of your parents. After all, they parented you in the only way they knew how. They could have been brought up in the same or similar ways themselves. Yet, what remains is that your younger self or inner child still feels the need to have that love and acceptance. 

Well, it is not too late. You can help yourself by addressing these needs in the now. Addressing unresolved needs helps you to build emotional resilience, strengthen self-confidence and esteem, and to undertake personal responsibility.

With all that you know now, with the higher consciousness that you are, you can offer parenting love, warmth and guidance to your inner child. 

I’d like to share 10 tips on  how you can connect with your inner child as a loving conscious parent. Don’t miss out on any tip as it may just create the positive difference that you need in your life right now! 

10 Tips for Connecting with Your Inner Child as a Conscious Parent 

The 10 tips are as follows…

1 Acknowledge your inner child’s feelings.
2 Attend to your inner child’s needs for safety and assurance. 
3 Guide your inner child in setting healthy boundaries. 
4 Give your inner child the permission to have fun.
5 Let your inner child know that it is okay to be curious and explore. 
6 Celebrate her success, wins, progress and accomplishments. 
7 Embrace your inner child even with her imperfections, mistakes and flaws. 
8 Guide her in developing positive habits. 
9 Give your inner child plenty of encouragement. 
10. Commit to being there for your inner child with presence.

Step into Self-Love and Be the Loving Consciousness that You Are

Just because you connect with your inner child doesn’t mean that you get stuck in the past. I get it…no one likes to be drag up issues from long time ago. You already know that you need to move on. 

However, you are likely to find that by addressing the unresolved needs of your inner child, you are actually practising self-love and increasing your ability to accept, let go and get on with your life. 

As mentioned, conscious reparenting leads you to experiencing greater confidence and the freedom to take charge of your life from now on.

If you would like to learn more, check out my starter course on how to reparent yourself. 

I apply a signature system to help those who are interested in healing their inner child with love and conscious reparenting. If you are needing further assistance and would like to find out about working together, do reach out to me by applying for a discovery call. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Conscious Reparenting Coach for Women 
Self-Love Healing Therapist 

Well, I’d like to share with you a morning routine that you can do. Tapping in the mornings have helped me to ground myself, become more energised and ready to go. In fact, many of my private clients got inspired to tap in the mornings as part of their daily routine.  

So if you feel like you are needing a positive boost, I’d like to invite you to join me in this EFT tapping session…

Let’s work on clearing the slate from yesterday, shifting your vibrations up and making the intention for an amazing day ahead.

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim

Enough was enough, you had said. You decided that you were quite done with hiding. And so, even as your heart raced, you proceeded with boldly sharing something vulnerable about yourself. With a trembling voice, you went through your story. You shared it from deep within your heart. 

The moment you let it out, you heaved a sigh of relief. The burden of keeping it all in was lifted. It was also when you gave yourself a pat on the back for your courage and congratulated yourself for being more authentic and daring greatly. 

But wait a minute!!! As the dust settled, you began to compute what you’ve just done. Filled with regret, you started to shame yourself for such a stupid move. Feeling vulnerable about being vulnerable hit you in waves of nausea. You became sick to the stomach over the thought that others might ridicule you or reject you. 

Well, in case you don’t know what had just taken place, there is one apt phrase that describes the phenomena: Vulnerability Hangover. 

I have experienced vulnerability hangover many times. Despite thinking that I would absolutely die from shame with each confession episode, none of the awful scenarios I imagined took place. For instance, no one criticised me for publishing a vulnerable post. The wonderful thing is that I am still alive and I continue to post vulnerable things about myself (such as this article) online.  

Do allow me to share my surviver guide to vulnerability hangover in this post 🙂 

What is a Vulnerability Hangover?

We all know what a hangover is.

It usually arises after excessive alcohol consumption. A hangover refers to a set of adverse symptoms that occur as a consequence of drinking too much. We would find ourselves experiencing fatigue, weakness, thirst, headache, muscle aches, nausea, stomach pain, vertigo, irritability, sweating, and/or increased blood pressure. I can still recall the days when I experience hangovers after a night of partying at the club, as a young adult. 

But what about a Vulnerability Hangover? 

A vulnerability hangover is also about the aftermath. In the case of a vulnerability hangover, it is the aftermath from having exposed something vulnerable about yourself. You experience a set of reactions in consequence that are both psychological and physical. 

For a start, it could be that you’ve experienced something that is shameful or embarrassing in the past. Or it could be some imperfection or secret that you prefer to hide from others. But after some time, you found the courage to finally share it. 

It may be that you not only share it privately but also chose to post about it publicly. However, in a turnaround after publishing your vulnerable story, you wish that you weren’t so hasty. The symptoms you experience may include anxiety, weakness, light-heartedness or dizziness. Shame takes over. 

Dr Brené Brown defines vulnerability hangover as the gut-wrenching feeling of shame and fear that pops right after we undertake an emotional risk. Indeed, it can feel as if our lives are at stake if we are to share something vulnerable about ourselves. No one likes to be perceived as weak, helpless or imperfect. We are afraid that people will reject or ridicule us because of our vulnerability. 

My Experience with Vulnerability Hangovers 

It started with writing articles. I recall the first time after sharing something vulnerable about myself online. For quite some time, I did not dare read what I had posted. My eyes would burn whenever I thought about the post where I had shamelessly shared about my previous dating failures. Fortunately, when I finally plucked the courage to review my post, I found out that it attracted great response. 

Then, I proceeded to publishing videos. I took the step of boldly sharing vulnerable stories when recording them. As the critic of my own videos, I consider some of them rather cringe-worthy. You can find them on my youtube channel, FB page or Instagram LOL! 

Well, I realised that I had two choices with each vulnerability hangover. The first option is to delete the post and pray very hard that no one has seen it. The second option is not to delete the video but to work through shame. I decided to do the latter. 

How to Heal Yourself from a Vulnerability Hangover 

If you are with me, I’d like to share how you can handle shame in 3 ways. They are as follows…

1. Work through letting go of shame and any fear of rejection. You can do this with EFT tapping or any other emotional healing method. This is a great opportunity for you to practice empathy. 
2. Normalise vulnerability hangover. Recognise that vulnerability is not a sign of weakness but an an act of courage and innate strength for having taken a risk. 
3. Align with your goals of wanting to create connection through your vulnerable stories. Remember: the more you put yourself out there, the more you increase your ability to connect with your audience. You are showing up with authentic courage!

I started out by not being able to review all or anything that I’ve posted vulnerably. What I have observed is that as I work through shame, I have increased my ability to go back and read my written posts or to replay some of my old videos – without flinching. I consider this progress! 

Hope this article is of help to you in working through vulnerability hangover. 

Let me know if vulnerability hangover is something you experience in the comments box below 🙂 

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn Lim 
Emotional Healing Coach
Accredited EFT Practitioner 

The Chicken And Duck Problem in Communication 

Ever heard of the Chinese idiom about getting a chicken and duck to talk to each other?

The Chinese idiom literally means two persons having difficulty communicating with each other, as if they are speaking different languages. 

I often felt that way when I was communicating with my husband. Arguments would start when we couldn’t seem to get through to each other. At first, my response strategy was to avoid whenever the communication got too difficult. However, I soon realised that it was necessary to talk things over so that misunderstandings can be cleared up. 

Keeping communication lines open between my husband and I gave us the chance to work through our conflicts. Where I once preferred to flee from difficult conversations, I have since learned to stay the course. These days, I’m learning to practice more empathetic listening, patience and respond more wisely. I’m also working on articulating my needs and to be more present to his. Even with the tiny improvements made, I can already see how things have improved between us. 

What Does S.P.A.R.K. mean

Admittedly, S.P.A.R.K while simple to understand, takes some effort to apply.

Indeed, the steps may seem obvious when we are trying to relate to a person but we can certainly apply the same steps for building a better relationship with money.

The process involves thinking of money as a “lover” or friend whom we are interested to deepen our connection with. When we are better attuned, our relationship with money naturally improves. Feeing nurtured and supported, we find ourselves becoming more productive, energised and resilient. All these help us to attract more clients, business and work opportunities. We are also better able to show up for our families, work and/or business.

S.P.A.R.K. essentially comprises of 
S=Sort Things Out
P=Pause & Be Present
A=Affirm Positively
R=Raise Your Game
K=Keep Thanking.

Applying S.P.A.R.K. in How You Can Communicate with Money

Here’s a brief explanation 

S=Sort Things Out. Work on conflict resolution. Change your thoughts and feelings towards money.

P=Pause & Be Present. Be present. Apply ABC which stands for Always Be Connecting. Set healthy money dates.

A=Affirm Positively. Affirm positive beliefs about money, your confidence and relationship with it.

R=Raise Your Game. Money loves growth. Invest in money workshops. Speak finances and money lingo. Work on growing money, increasing sources of income and your money mindset.

K=Keep Thanking. Avoid taking things for granted. Adopt gratitude for the role of money in your life.

The Art of Money Communication

I wouldn’t have made it to celebrating 20 years of married life to the same guy if I hadn’t worked hard in improving my communication with him. We’ve learned the importance of connection, support and growth in our relationship. As we’ve discovered, it is an ongoing process and it can be an art in communicating with money sometimes. 

Similarly, to have a great relationship with money requires constant tending to. However, most people neglect their money relationship. It could be due to fear or some limiting beliefs in the way. It is best that we avoid tending to this as last in our priority, if we are interested to thrive financially in the world. Money is after all, something that we have to handle till the day we die. Hence, learning to better communicate with it is vital! 

Not forgetting, money loves compounding! Incremental improvements can go a long way. Thus, the earlier we make healthy money dates and learn to better speak the language of money, the more investment pay-offs we reap!

For more on S.P.A.R.K., check out the Relationship with Money course here. There are more examples and worksheets that you can download to work on improving the art of money communication. 

Love and Abundance Always, 
Evelyn Lim
Money Relationship Mentor 
Financial Therapist 

Nellie’s line of work requires her to service the needs of wealthy individuals or at least people with excess funds.  If she releases her subconscious blocks, client attraction can potentially happen with greater ease. It will certainly help Nellie to have more clients as the extra income that she gets can go a long way to supporting her family with two young kids. Since her beliefs could be in the way for client attraction and business sales, we proceeded to work on releasing the limiting money blocks.

Childhood Situation that Created Limiting Money Blocks

When I asked Nellie what some of her discomfort was reminding her of, she recalled two childhood incidents when she was 11 years old that had left her feeling lousy, disgusted and ashamed. 

Back then, Nellie had signed up for a holiday job that required her to sell Christmas cards. She was tasked to go from house to house, in order to make some sales. Since it was a rich neighbourhood, she was expecting to sell her Christmas cards easily. 

However, when her 11-year old self knocked on one such door, the man who opened it looked at her with irritation. The look on the man’s face made her feel as she was some kind of pest. As she related, a thought crossed her mind,  “what mother said about rich people must be true.”

Nellie’s mother had previously shared her thoughts about how “rich” people are like. They were mostly negative. It resulted in Nellie adopting a bad impression and yet, causing her to feel inferior and second class to friends who come from wealthier backgrounds. 

In the meantime, her 11-year old self was also taught to use dishonesty by saying that the proceeds made from the Christmas cards would be donated to charity (when in fact, there were later indications that this did not happen).

What Happened During Our Session 

Well, we worked on helping her inner child release any negative emotional disruptions using EFT tapping.

At the same time, we worked on letting go of the limiting beliefs that Nellie had formed. Her younger self had internalised the messages that belonged to her mother. These needed to be released, since they don’t serve her now or at all. Also, we needed to help her clear the conflict she was experiencing in her value system.

The 3 limiting money beliefs that Nellie had were…

• Rich people are stingy.
• I’m cheap, having to ask for the money.
• I need to sell dishonestly in order to make a sale.

We reframed these beliefs into more positive ones. I pointed out that one can be stingy – whether rich or poor. We also agreed that it’s possible for someone to be both rich and generous too. Thus, it is false that ALL rich people are stingy.

The positive beliefs that we installed included…

• I allow client attraction to happen with greater ease.
• I attract ideal clients who are happy to be working together.
• It is safe for me to use authentic ways to connect with ideal clients and to promote my offers easily. 
• I am worthy of working with all those who can benefit from my services. 

Finally, we set an intention for attracting a vibrational match to her ideal client type.

Nellie reported to feeling more energised, lighter, and confident in the way forward. We discussed some energetic aligned actions that she can apply for her business, as a follow through on her session. I’m excited for her and glad that our session went well 🙂 

What’s Next for You

Which brings me to the point about writing this post: how you can help yourself.

Ask yourself if you are having any limiting beliefs or stories about selling, client attraction or making money.

How is having this belief or message making you feel?
Does this feeling remind you of something in the past?
If so, when was this? What age were you? What happened?

Next, use the information to work on releasing blocks that are in your way. You can use any emotional or energy release method. Personally, I like using a combination of therapeutic approaches including EFT tapping, inner child healing, NLP and so on. Affirm new beliefs that support you with creating the business that you love and that thrives. 

If you need any assistance, reach out to me. Or if you prefer to work through limiting beliefs on your own, check out my transform your relationship with money course. 

Hope this helps!

Love and abundance always, 
Evelyn 
Abundance Coach

Other client stories can be found here…